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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Ok - Deal is -

I've liked this boy (lets call him number 1)
for 5 bloody years i've tried it on every year and there's alwayz been a reason y not.then this other boy (number 2), his friend starts coming after me saying <<<<<<he wants to fu**.>>>>>>> so I think y not but I wasnt sure so still lead him on. THEN!! Boy number 1 tells me <<<<<<<<<<<<<<he wants to fu** too.>>>>>> - I think - WOW!!!! but i like boy number 2 aswell and they are both best friends. - Then Boy number 2 finally tells me He is <<<<<<SEEING 1 OF MY FRIENDS,>>>>> so i have to keep quiet but still keeps texting me saying <<<<<he wants to fu** me>>>>>. AND boy number 1 also Texts me from boy number 2's fone saying the same. NOW TO TOP IT ALL OFF now they wanna do a <<<<<3some>>>>>>. I wouldnt mind but is it wrong? and what would the consequences be?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmm...welcome to thesite, first off.

    Second, I really don't think these guys are friends - more interested in a quick fuck than in your mind. The consequences - I dunno. From the sounds of things, nothing will happen from this - or possibly ppl will start calling you a slut.

    Whatever happened to a good old relationship where people love each other? These days! really!

    DM
    I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    3-somes are just the mutt's nuts!!
    if they're both fine with it, that's all good, but it's abit dodgy that one of them already has a g/f

    other than that, go for it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    bugger, turtle has a point actually (curse him <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; )
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx. I dunno what happened 2 Relationships. But is there really ne thing wrong with having sex with sum1 who ur not in a relationship with? I mean it's just 2 people doing sumthing that they both enjoy
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    looked at that way, it's only wrong so far as u feel (morally) that it's wrong.

    Of course the possibly that they just want u for a quickie is evident, if u'r happy with this then that's ur decision but like turtle said, it'll give u a reputation, in all probablity, u don't want.

    But as long as r willing to accept the consequences i'd say there's nothing wrong with sex just for the sake of sex, as long as everyone involved is agreed on that point.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LondonGurl:

    NOW TO TOP IT ALL OFF now they wanna do a <<<<<3some>>>>>>. I wouldnt mind but is it wrong? and what would the consequences be?

    Firstly you have tyo ask yourself, whether you really want to do this, if you do you must ask yourself why you want to do this? if you feel you have to do this t get in with one or the other of the two guys, don't be suprised if after a 3some they drop you like a hot potatoe, because inevitably they will, I have a close friend who was caught in a similar situation. She felt pressured into doing certain things that she didn't feel comftable doing, after the sex the guy seriously fucked her about and damaged her emotionally (physically as well from the acts they took part in).

    IMHO for what it's worth neither of these guys are worth it they sound like dogs who have coluded together to put you in this situation. I personally tell them to fuck themselves and move on to someone more deserving of you, your body and emotions.

    Whatever you decide I wish you luck and take care, should you decide to proceed with the two of them, be safe, remember, no glove, no love.

    Luk


    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Personally it seems to me that they are taking advantage of the fact that you like em both.

    You said one of them has got a bird, if you go through with this its very likely that they are gonna brag about it saying that they had you both and its likely that she may find out about it.

    If your just looking for a bit of fun id say go for it because it will be fun, but if you want something more i wouldnt bother because in the end you will only get hurt.

    Good Luck!

    I hope you make the right decision for yourself.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know if I was one of the lads I wouldnt see you again, not from being nasty but from the stick I'd get from my mates.
    If you have this threesome do you mind how others will view you? I know you people will say that not everyone is the same and people wont treat her differently whether she does or doesn't. They will, have you thought how your friends will react? Have you thought about the girl who's relationship you will be damaging/destroying???
    The lad that you like will see you differently, instead of thinking about you as a person he will think about you as a piece of meat, something he can shag at the drop of a hat and not have to think about the conscequences.......
    I know everything I have said has been discouraging, but in this situation you have everything to lose and not a lot to gain, if this lad only wants you for sex then he can't be very nice anyway can he....?

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ditto to everything luka said. god that guy is on my wavelength! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    On the plus side, with two of them, they might be able to take turns and keep going long enough to give you some serious fun. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    If you go into it with your eyes open, and can cope with what people might say, it's a casual arrangement and can be good. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    On the down side, it puts you in a potentially bad situation - you might find yourself in a 2 against 1 with them using the threat of telling everyone that you are slut to keep you quiet.

    there are moral problems of course, with 1 and his G - personally I wouldn't want to do it without G's approval. Have they considered making it a 4?

    regardless, if you decide to go ahead, talk about it first. More than 2 gets complicated, and while you should talk about sex before hand anyway, with groups it is vital - not coreography, but what is okay, what is okay but only if you are in the groove, and what is not okay.

    While it is fairl likely that they simply view you as an easy lay, it ain't necessarily so. I know a number of people who have been in a long lasting ploy housholds - mostly 3s but some bigger.

    If you like sex, go for it - just don't expect it to turn into love. It might, but it shuldn't be your reason for doing it.

    [This message has been edited by Carriage Return (edited 29-12-2000).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    WOW do I know these two guys?? sounds a tad like a post I wrote not too long ago but didnt get hardly any replys.... honestly right this is from some one who did wrong and although I didnt sleep with both guy together I did it behind the guy I liked back hence I have now been not able to speek to him he hates my guts and so does his mate...Get out now it is not worth the hassel!!
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