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Sex as an expression of love...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
It just occured to me for some reason whilst talking to Spirit that I don't see sex as a way of expressing true love for some one. I can't work out why - I'd never really thought about it before hand so...

You're views?
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.

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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i see sex as part of a relationship, not necessarily as expressing your love but something you share with someone you are close to, an intimate experience. i mean, sex and love are both different things. it just happens that they can be connected, ie having sex with someone you love, or falling on love with someone you have sex with.

    does that make any sense?!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I see sex as an activity done between two people.

    To some poeple it means a lot and they think of it as a sacred thing only to be shared with someone who means a great deal to you.

    With me its not like im prepared to spread my legs for any guy who wants a bit of my punani, but I do have one night stands and I certainly dont find them as a way of expressing love because I dont love everyone i have sex with!
    I see it as getting off with someone else who just wants ot get off.

    Then theres having sex with people I do love but how can I say its my way of expressing love to them when i do it with people i dont love!

    I was saying to turtle that the best feeling in the world is not sex its when you lie in each others arms, just holding each other real close and when someone tells you they love you and you know deep in your heart that they mean it.

    To me theres no such thing as sex, theres a fuck and theres making love.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I used to treat sex as meaning nothing and I simply slept with blokes coz I knew thats all they wanted and I didnt give a crap...sad isnt it! I realise now that its more than that, but Im yet to have sex with a bloke and feel good about myself after, but this is definatly to do with me not the bloke. There is a lot I think I need to sort out in my past before I can truly feel comfotable in bed with a bloke.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Talking as a way of expressing love?

    if you talk to people you don't love does this cheapen the way you talk to someone you do?

    What about people who are paid to talk to other people.

    I just wish I were bilingual <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i don't think sex is an expression of love. look at the amount of prostitutes out there, they don't love every client they take to bed. And people pay them for sex, since when did you have to pay to express love?
    i only see sex as an expression of love in a long term relationship, outside of that, sex is just a way of having some fun and getting "laid."
    Come on...sex is so comman nowadays and so many people does it - does that mean everyone loves everybody?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have this thing, that my body is so special, a gift, and that it should only be shared with soeemone really speacial to me.

    It sounds a bit old fashioned, i'm not into this saving yourself until the wedding night stuff, but, your body is the best present you could give to someone and that time should be special and i couldn't imagine sharing something that personal and intimate with someone I didn't love.

    However, if your talking about sex as a quick screw, then that obviously means nothing, unless, it's like a need to be loved thing....but I won't go into that.

    I suppose it's all about perspective.
    "some rarely touch it but it touches them often." Stanley, Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    It just occured to me for some reason whilst talking to Spirit that I don't see sex as a way of expressing true love for some one. I can't work out why - I'd never really thought about it before hand so...

    You're views?


    rofl.. only when talkin to Spirit <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">.

    nah, sex isnt usuaally an expression of luv, but if u have sex with some1 u love n loves u it's always a hell of a lot better than just some passing girl.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Daze u cheeky get what r u trying to say!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah Daze...what you trying to say?

    I coulda been talking to you - that woulda scared you wouldn't it!
    I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Marmite, I couldnt agree more.
    Sex shouldnt be something people go looking for. It should be between two people that really care about eachother and are in love. In 10 years time do you really want to look back on your sexual experiences and say "oh yes i had 6 one night stands that meant nothing to me" or would you rather say that "one night was one of the most special moments of my life".
    Making Love should be something special not dirty.


    [This message has been edited by ElectroFantasy (edited 02-01-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol... it aint that sex just seems to come up when talking to Spirit <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Daze:
    lol... it aint that sex just seems to come up when talking to Spirit <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    Only cos ur horny all the time and thats all u wanna talk about!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    hehehe

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hmmm think u got me mixed up wiv some1 else <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Daze:
    hmmm think u got me mixed up wiv some1 else <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    It ain't me. Spirit don';t talk to me - just ignores me! And bans me from her compeitions. She's a nasty bitch <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; j/k.
    I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ElectroFantasy:
    Marmite, I couldnt agree more.
    Sex shouldnt be something people go looking for. It should be between two people that really care about eachother and are in love. In 10 years time do you really want to look back on your sexual experiences and say "oh yes i had 6 one night stands that meant nothing to me" or would you rather say that "one night was one of the most special moments of my life".
    Making Love should be something special not dirty.


    [This message has been edited by ElectroFantasy (edited 02-01-2001).]

    I agree with you in essence, but I don't think that all sexual experiences should be ruled out because no love exists.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; j9

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