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Paranoia!
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If you cant seem to get paranoia out of a relationship and its been like this for ages would you end it?
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what are you paranoid of, and has it ever happened?
If someone is going to cheat on you, it makes no difference what you do. They will do it anyway. If you are clingy and posessive they are probably more likely to feel trapped.
what are you suspicious about?
Imagine relationships before mobile phones...they cause so many problems.
i don't think it necessarily sounds like he's cheating, just like a bit of boyish 'she fancies me'.
if you paranoia is screwing up your relationship, you can't talk about it, and you cannot trust each other enough not to go off with someone else...
then there isn't much hope there it seems; and perhaps it would be a good idea to at least consider ending it.
without trust: there isn't a relationship! :no:
Yer i probably should listen to them more. Maybe i should get out of it now before it gets even worse. Keep thinking id be better off single...
Recently hes been buying me more gifts and complimenting me more. This just makes me really suspect! Have had that feeling for a long time wish it would go!
You are describing just what I get. I know my guy loves me but I worry all the time. I have to stop myself worrying over who he is texting etc.
I think it boils down to the fact that I dont like myself very much and I've also been treated badly and cheated on so I guess its a case of once bitten twice shy.
Easier said than done but you've gotta try to believe he loves you. Maybe you coukld sit down and talk over why you feel this way and see how he feels and if he has any similar worries.
Paranoia is awful. Its even worse when its just that niggling feeling you described and you cam't quite put your finger on why you feel that way.
Take care
Phoenix
Whatever you do it should be what you feel would be best for you, you said you sometimes think you would be better off being single, if there are any doubts then there is your answer.
i personally can't stand the element of jealousy in a relationship. i know it's natural to have, but i believe in trust so if you can't trust your boyfriend after 14 months together, how long is it gonna take for him to gain your trust! you should be flattered that other girls think his attractive, when my boyfriend goes out he has girls flirting with him and he has girl friends that i have never met, but he talks to on the phone. i take it as a compliment to me!
Seriously, ask him if you can trust him, if he says you can (without hesitating) then believe him!
, but i decided 2 get back with him as i love him more than anything, its been really hard trying to for get both r mistakes!
but i no that trust comes with time so we started over again and were both making the effort to b honest with eachother, the hardest thing is not bringing it all up! im the worsed 4 it, but what i go on is the fact that he can 4get the past so i owe him that much 2 for get myself!!