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Partner not Helping!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I dont know why but my girl does not like to do anything just leaves if up to me.
Seems like she is shy, but i dont know how to get her to participate in our intercouse? M i doing something wrong. :confused:

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    does she want to have sex with you?

    answer: you need to talk to her!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe she is just really nervous and doesnt actually know what to do.

    Basically you gotta talk, find out what shes thinking!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its probably not that your doing something wrong so much as she feels like she'd do something wrong. She might be a little shy about it too.. perhaps? I remember before I started having sex with my b/f I thought "I'll just lay there and let him do what he wants, that way I wont mess anything up"

    It wasn't until we started experimenting and I found out he wanted me to get involved that I realized he'd like that better.... just tell her....

    If you can't talk to her you shouldn't have sex with her :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She needs confidence and you need to talk to her....... I used to just lie there, for the simple fact.... I didn't know what to do! Now I experiment all the time with different things because I have gained confidence (too much I think, I always have to be in control) You need to talk yo ur gf, and make sure she feels comfortable. Don't push her into anything, wait till shes ready. For example....... my current bf is the only one I have given a blow job...... reason.... he is the only one who didn't push or ask so I just did it, in fact because he didn't push me and lets me be in control, I enjoy it!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe shes shy about telling you what shed like to do sexually. If she doesnt want to tell you out loud, maybe she could write it down. Or if you look at a sex book (karma sutra eg) together she could point to the parts shed like to do.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    One experience i'll never forget was when i got drunk at a friends house. and this girl jumped on me, literally, but that was all she did, once she had me naked and on top of her she just opened her legs and laid back, she wouldn't do anything. Although even she couldn't find her hole (but thats not the point) i spent ages trying to find it, never found out, got dressed and went home in my paraletycness. Lol.

    The moral of my post is that i think some girls tend to prefer a man to do the work.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Get a porno and watch it together... it will give her a few ideas!! :thumb:
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