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how do you know?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Ok guys heres an interesting one for you. How do you know when your in love? today I overheard two girls at college talking. One was saying how much in love she was with this guy and the other replied; "but you’ve only known him 2 days!" this got me thinking: can you fall in love instantly and feel this amazing connection with someone or is love something that develops over time when you’ve got to know them. And also, how do you know when you’re in love? When its the real thing? Is there such a thing as "the one"? sorry about all the questions but I’ve just been thinking, and I think that maybe I’ve never been in love, I just don’t know!!! Any thoughts you have on this would be gratefully received!!!
love and peace to you all xxx
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i definitely have an opinion this one whizzy! but first i just wanna say hi to everyone. i'm lou and i've only today discovered this board. so hopefully you'll be hearing from me quite a bit!
    anyway, getting back to the topic: i definitely believe in love at first sight. its not about personalities or any of that, its a feeling inside that you and that person are just so......... i can't think of the word but you know what i mean! anyone who's felt it will anyway!
    talk to you soon
    luv lou xxx

    [This message has been edited by totally loopy (edited 22-11-2000).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi totally loopy

    I think at first it isn't love. Its like when your a kid and you buy a new toy and you play with it for weeks and you never let it go. You like this toy because it is something new.

    As time goes on you get fed up of the toy and get a new one until you eventually find the toy which you want to keep forever.

    Ok so comparing love to a toy is a bit different but you catch my drift? What I'm saying is the 2 people are just discovering each other and what may interest them at first may become boring later.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You just know when your in love. TRUST ME!
    I'm only 15 and I KNOW that Ive found THE one.It woz love at first sight aswell!
    We've been togeva almost three months now and
    we c each otha nearly every nite and spk when i get up in the morning, txt each other throu the morning, spk at lunch, txt each otha thru the aftanoon, spk when i get in from school, spk whn he gets in from work,
    then before we go to sleep.Everytime we leave each otha, even afta we've spent all day togeva, we nearly almost cry! Sad i know but THAT'S love!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i know what you mean foxy. it used to be like that with me and my boyfriend last year... but we've been togehter for 16 months and we just argue more and dont do anything that we havent done before, like go to cinema, clubbing with mates, boring stuff like watching tv and staying up alte and doing nothign and getting up late. and its all just really boring now. he lives almost 200 miles away too. when he went home i used to be really upset and miss him until he came down again, and be really excited about seeing him. now its just like "yeah, great". which isnt so fun. and its frustrating if yuo see people you like and always thinking "im not single!" and reminding yourself. we still get on well most of the time.. its just a bit dull a lot of that time. we still love each other though. and we almost broke up a few times... and decided we couldnt cope without each other. so i guess we're just stuck being bored together... and it doesnt help that i dont get on with his parents coz they treat me badly and he says he gets bored coming to mine.. well whats worse, gettinga bit bored or being mdae to feel unwelcome and imtimidated?! sorry turned this into a bit of a rant. bet he reads this now too...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that when you are in love you should know! It isn't somthing that is suttle. For one thing when your in love with someone you want to be with that someone for ever (which makes it harder when you break up, if you do). I think that you would also do anything for that person, maybe even jumpof a cliff!
    BaRt
    Live Life On The Edge!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know wot U mean about being confused whether or not U R in love or not! I've been wit my b/f for 4 and a half months (we R both 16). He told me after 4 months that he loved me but I haven't said it back 2 him coz I ain't sure! I asked 1 of my mates when do U know when U R in love & she said U just know. I guess that means that I don't love him coz i'm not sure. Ne way I think U shouldn't worry about it 2 much coz sum ppl in their 20's have never been in love!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    but how do you know what it feels like to be in love if you've never been in love?!
    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by whizzygirl:
    but how do you know what it feels like to be in love if you've never been in love?!


    u dont
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by foxyfeline55:
    You just know when your in love. TRUST ME!
    I'm only 15 and I KNOW that Ive found THE one.It woz love at first sight aswell!
    We've been togeva almost three months now and
    we c each otha nearly every nite and spk when i get up in the morning, txt each other throu the morning, spk at lunch, txt each otha thru the aftanoon, spk when i get in from school, spk whn he gets in from work,
    then before we go to sleep.Everytime we leave each otha, even afta we've spent all day togeva, we nearly almost cry! Sad i know but THAT'S love!

    Tell us when you break up.

    Seriously - do you believe that you'll be with this guy forever? At 15, the chances of that are infentismle (?).

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Stop it, boys! Cheeky Monkey has disappeared since you too started mouthing off about her her engagement. Not helpful. I do believe in love at first sight, but then I also believed in Santa once. I haven't experienced it, though. With me and my boyf there was a sort of 'attraction' but then again he was just getting out of the pool, dripping with water and only in swimming shorts, so I s'pose that's called lust! Harry, Turtle: please be a bit more gentle <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    does wanting to be with him all the time and thinking about him constantly when hes not around and wanting to phone him every 5 seconds count. and having to resist the urge to fling myself on top of whenever i see him. i think its love!
    i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
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