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i am so confused about my sexuality

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
people at school often call me gay and sometimes it can really hurt. recently i have been thinking that maybe all these comments are hidden messages to indicate that maybe i am bisexual. i still feel as tho i like girls but doing things with guys doesnt repulse me. a friend recommended that i kiss a guy to see whether i enjoy it or not.

a few days ago i had a mate over who isnt my best mate but none the less is still a friend. we were watching porn we had discussed the theory or doing things together online. we ended up kissing and giving each other hand jobs but i still feel no different about my sexuality than i did before. all i know is that i did enjoy that evening and that i am feeling rather down about it all my confusuion. any tips?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Every young'un experiments with their sexuality when their younger, it don't mean to say their gay or bi. People calling people gay is supposed to some kind of insult, just ignore the taunts. If you still feel the same about your secuality then you got nothing to worry about.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Every young'un experiments with their sexuality when their younger, it don't mean to say their gay or bi. People calling people gay is supposed to some kind of insult, just ignore the taunts. If you still feel the same about your sexuality then you got nothing to worry about.
    :yes: Unfortunately one of life's challenges is trying to learn about yourself - in so many ways.

    Do you feel that you need to define yourself? Of course there is such a thing as "sexual identity" - it's something that is very important to some people and completely incidental to others. Maybe you should stop worrying so much about why those things happened between you and your friend and just let life take its course?

    I know that's a tough thing to do - and I'm not one to practise what I preach! - but if you can relax about it things will be easier.

    Good luck!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    worry less bout finding a label for yourself and just get on with getting to know people better. this tends to lead to friendship or attraction/relationship. its irrelevent whether that person is a man or a woman. u'll know in time which u prefer, there is no point stressing whether u are gay, straight or bi. as long as u are true to urself all will become aparant.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the thing is through some eccentric warped waythose things were sorta planned
    and its eating me up all my confusion, thats why i feel i need to know who i am. but i am afraid since there is so much prejudice in this world...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The people who don't like you because of something like sexuallity or race, etc. ain't the sort of people you wanna even bother speak to. As Piccolo said, let life take it's course, if you are gay or bi then there's nothing you can do about it apart from either except the way you are and be happy or sit there and wallow in self pity, there's much more worser thing to worry about... in any case, worry won't stop you from being who you are :).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would agree with J, i have found things had made more sense now that im older. And i don't think you don't need to do anything to discover your feelings..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I, personally, never pursued those situations with my friends, but I don't think you need to take it as meaning anything. Far more people are open to experimenting with their sexuality these days. Rather than just being accepted it's almost considered cool to be different. Sometimes I wonder though if different is just being happy being heterosexual.

    Be whatever and whoever you want to be.

    Do whatever and whoever you want to.

    Good luck.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Every young'un experiments with their sexuality when their younger, it don't mean to say their gay or bi. People calling people gay is supposed to some kind of insult, just ignore the taunts. If you still feel the same about your secuality then you got nothing to worry about.

    That's not true...the vast majority of males don't experiment at all.

    Definitely bi-sexual.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well a lot of then.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Spliffie wrote:
    That's not true...the vast majority of males don't experiment at all.

    Definitely bi-sexual.

    Maybe not in your circle, in the city we're all Metrosexuals.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well a lot of then.

    Well presumably bi-sexuals experiment, yeah.

    The whole thing is currently 'in vogue', i find the whole "everyone experiments", "everyone is partly bi-sexual" just tiresome really.

    Still...do what thou wilt.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think i am starting to find myself. i dont need a lable but if anyone asks i am saying for now that i am bicurious. i dont feel as though i could persue a relationship with a guy like i would normally with a girl, however i feel as though i am up for sexual experimentation. and i am 15 for that person who wanted to know.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my friend always used to say he was try-sexual if anyone asked about his sexuality. if they asked him what he ment he just said " in that i will try anything sexual once- dont knock anything til uve experienced it, then ur in a position to judge"
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thats unless themetro line breaks down or theirs a fire

    does that make us
    metro-but-replaced-by-replacement-bus-services-sexual
  • ClaireBearClaireBear Deactivated Posts: 467 Listening Ear
    Hiya,
    You might find the info and advice in this Q&A and in this one too helpful and reassuring, they also contain info about places you can contact if you'd like to talk it through more.

    CB
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    im speaking as a bi-guy, so dont get confused :razz:
    i personally dont let it get to me, but if you do find youself,
    dont let it rule you, follow your heart and gut feelings trust me never ignore a gut feeling itll always set you right.
    pm me if your still psyced out on this :thumb:
    be strong mate
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why the hell do people put labels on themselves and why should knowing 'what' you are really matter? As long as you're happy in yourself.

    People who stick labels on themselves and shout it from the roof tops in my opinion are just attention seeking. I mean a mate's a mate at the end of the day, whatever sexuality they are (this goes for straight people too). And it really pisses me off how people exclude others from social circles for being 'bi', 'gay', or 'straight'... because who you fuck doesn't matter.

    Take it from me mate... When you feel ready to experiment, try it. If you like it then you're the same person... Just somebody who likes the same sex.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ftptptf wrote:
    people at school often call me gay and sometimes it can really hurt. recently i have been thinking that maybe all these comments are hidden messages to indicate that maybe i am bisexual. i still feel as tho i like girls but doing things with guys doesnt repulse me. a friend recommended that i kiss a guy to see whether i enjoy it or not...
    All I'm going to say is that you should never do anything that you aren't comfortable with and that you don't have to "decide" what your sexuality is.
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