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i am so confused about my sexuality
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people at school often call me gay and sometimes it can really hurt. recently i have been thinking that maybe all these comments are hidden messages to indicate that maybe i am bisexual. i still feel as tho i like girls but doing things with guys doesnt repulse me. a friend recommended that i kiss a guy to see whether i enjoy it or not.
a few days ago i had a mate over who isnt my best mate but none the less is still a friend. we were watching porn we had discussed the theory or doing things together online. we ended up kissing and giving each other hand jobs but i still feel no different about my sexuality than i did before. all i know is that i did enjoy that evening and that i am feeling rather down about it all my confusuion. any tips?
a few days ago i had a mate over who isnt my best mate but none the less is still a friend. we were watching porn we had discussed the theory or doing things together online. we ended up kissing and giving each other hand jobs but i still feel no different about my sexuality than i did before. all i know is that i did enjoy that evening and that i am feeling rather down about it all my confusuion. any tips?
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Do you feel that you need to define yourself? Of course there is such a thing as "sexual identity" - it's something that is very important to some people and completely incidental to others. Maybe you should stop worrying so much about why those things happened between you and your friend and just let life take its course?
I know that's a tough thing to do - and I'm not one to practise what I preach! - but if you can relax about it things will be easier.
Good luck!
and its eating me up all my confusion, thats why i feel i need to know who i am. but i am afraid since there is so much prejudice in this world...
Be whatever and whoever you want to be.
Do whatever and whoever you want to.
Good luck.
That's not true...the vast majority of males don't experiment at all.
Definitely bi-sexual.
Maybe not in your circle, in the city we're all Metrosexuals.
Well presumably bi-sexuals experiment, yeah.
The whole thing is currently 'in vogue', i find the whole "everyone experiments", "everyone is partly bi-sexual" just tiresome really.
Still...do what thou wilt.
does that make us
metro-but-replaced-by-replacement-bus-services-sexual
You might find the info and advice in this Q&A and in this one too helpful and reassuring, they also contain info about places you can contact if you'd like to talk it through more.
CB
i personally dont let it get to me, but if you do find youself,
dont let it rule you, follow your heart and gut feelings trust me never ignore a gut feeling itll always set you right.
pm me if your still psyced out on this :thumb:
be strong mate
People who stick labels on themselves and shout it from the roof tops in my opinion are just attention seeking. I mean a mate's a mate at the end of the day, whatever sexuality they are (this goes for straight people too). And it really pisses me off how people exclude others from social circles for being 'bi', 'gay', or 'straight'... because who you fuck doesn't matter.
Take it from me mate... When you feel ready to experiment, try it. If you like it then you're the same person... Just somebody who likes the same sex.