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Jealousy attacks...
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Ok, this is about my boyfriend and something that happened today, we went to the library together so he could check his emails etc and I was there with him, he didn't mind me being there or anything but then he opened one up and I read it without thinking, it was from an ex of his who he claims is his "best" friend and that she was all he ever wanted at one point until he got with her. I wasn't happy about what the message said. Anyway, this message really got to me and is eating me up inside. Do I tell him or am I just being completely insecure? Any advice would be appreciated.
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If it was a simple :-
Hi how are you? - fancy meeting up sometime to catch up on old times,
Then there may be nothing in it. Besides, it's you your boyfriend is with now, not his ex (who he split up with for one reason or another)
If however, the message was more 'personal' then maybe you could mention it to him? - He may laugh it off and call you paranoid, but if you point out why your feeling like you are it would make you feel better, and he would then know how you feel ?
Good luck x
Your gonna be a lovely boyfriend.....
Just be honest girl, in my opinion its so much better to talk about things rather then keep them to yourself. Hopefully your just being paranoid but make sure you speak to him calmly and explain that its hurting you.
Good job she isn't your girlfriend then :rolleyes:
Especially as she was with him, not prying into his emails.
You actually have a girlfriend?
I get jealous over tons of things, photographs I stumble across, pictures he drew of his ex, stuff like that, but its just shit lying about the house. Its nothing to get mad about, although it makes me angry, but thats my fault, not his.
My boyfriend told me that his ex asked him out for a drink. My stomach churned, my eyes bulged and my mouth went dry. Jealousy is not a pretty thing. I didn't get angry or upset. I just said 'Over my dead body' in a sweet manner, with a smile. I think he got the picture.
if it was just 'how've you been, i miss having you around, how is the dog/fish/grandma/uni?' then might be overreacting slightly. although i think a lot of people would still be a little annoyed purely cause she's an ex and he's said all those things about her.
but if it was more 'i love you, dump her and let's fly off into the sunset and do all those things we were talking about last night' then some serious telling off is in order.
Not anymore, caught the silly bitch reading my emails didn't i...
i wonder why??
God, I would be so pissed and worried if some chick called my boyfriend "sexy". And if someone said it to me, I would make sure they didnt again. People need to respect when others are in relationships. I think you should talk to him about it. Sounds to me like she is trying to get back with him (sorry, you maybe didnt want to hear that)...If it was innocent, then no problems, and if it wasnt then you need to have a chat about it. Have you actually met this girl?
Oh, and whats the deal with "Dan Brown"? That kinda talk scares me. I heard on the news that domestic abuse has gone up 10% in Scotland. I wish I could do something to help people in those situations, its so terrible
The message being that next time he has the opportunity to meet up with her he shouldn't tell you?
Surely he can have whoever he chooses as a friend?
I say put it behind you now and don't give it another thought, if she does decide she would like to be friends with him then try and make sure you make friends with her too.
Sorry, that made me laugh too
you have to talk to him, dont lauch a verbal attack at him, just explain and tell him how you feel. if he does love you then he will appreacaite how you feel and either not write back or maybe tell his ex that he has a girlfriend now,who he loves and that he still wants to be mates with her but shes got no chance.
but you shouldnt forget anbout because from my expirence jealousy gets worse.
Totally out of line to dictate to me who I can and cannot speak to. All the more so when I'm at fault for something someone else sends me.
I agree with you. Really does annoy me when people _think_ they can control who I can and cant see. Reminds me too much of my ex <shudder>
I will always pick friends over a girlfriend who thinks she can control who I can and cant speak to. 1 bossy jealous girlfriend, or 30 friends who I get along with... hard choice...