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does it hurt?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
ok, so i have almost gone all the way a couple of times, but i am just not ready. i think that i am mentaly ready but not physicaly, the only thing that is really stopping me is the question "does it hurt the first time?"
i know it will, but how bad, like very bad or just alittle.
please help!

missery binds my inner soul, and life is nothing but a bother

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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    it really does depend on each person, if i could give you a definitive answer i would. it hurt me quite a lot ,and again the next few times too. but some people it doesnt hurt at all, or only hurts a little bit for a short amount of time.

    just take it slowly and get your bf to be gentle with you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Didnt hurt me at all <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Spirit II:
    Didnt hurt me at all <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    It didnt hurt my gf either, but she had been using tampons so they probably pierced the hymen.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Whowhere:
    It didnt hurt my gf either, but she had been using tampons so they probably pierced the hymen.

    It didn't hurt me....i always get that strange feeling in the pit of my stomach. It varies from person to person so you won't know unil you do it!!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Whowhere:
    It didnt hurt my gf either, but she had been using tampons so they probably pierced the hymen.

    Ah but then again so had gfm if I remember her previous posts on this subject correctly <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first time hurt a bit and i had been using tampons and went horse-riding for ages (which is also meant to sumtimes break the hymen) so i guess it just depends on the individual. The iccle bit of pain is wel worth the pleasure u eventually get <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont worry about it babes,i was shitting myself about it,i was sooo scared,hense the name!worried about bleeding etc...if u bleed he will understand!i didnt bleed,it didnt hurt either,nice surprise!i told my bf to just take it slow,and gentle,and he totally respected it,have fun!its great!
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Chickadee:
    Ah but then again so had gfm if I remember her previous posts on this subject correctly <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    yay you remembered! yep thats exactly right, i used tampons without incredibly difficulty, but it hurt like hell when i did have sex <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    but it gets better, believe me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It did hurt me not so much I never wanted to do it again but some and I had been using tampons to for a while so again it all depends on the person
    I'm like a bird I'll only fly away. I don't know where my home is, I don't know where my soul is.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Does it hurt men as well? I mean it didn't hurt me, but friends (male) have said that they hurt a little.
    BaRt
    Anyone who isn't pulling their weight is probably pushing their luck
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    i know of 2 blokes who've said it hurt them a bit. dont know how though! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt;
    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Its the four skin G-F-M.
    If the guys got a tight one when he enters the girl it is pulled back/stretched and that can hurt.
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    Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    ahaaaa glen, that would explain it. these arent guys ive slept with myself btw lol, just m8s ive talked to about it. so i wouldnt know the state of their foreskin! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    Burn baby burn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i had a dreadful 1st time experience, i bleed like a pig! it hurt at 1st 4 about 5secs then it was ok, we didnt realise till we'd finished! he had it all over his beige trousers, ha ha ha, serves the b*****d rt!
    4 the 1st few times i found it uncomfortable, but part from that its ok, also depends on the position, sum make ur eyes water with pain!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    why was he wearing trousers so far up his body? i can understand why he wore them as some blokes hate getting naked especially if other peeps around, but why?
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