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is it me or does she want to break up????
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Hi,im new here but ive been visiting the site for a while and i really need some help,its a long story but here goes,I always though me and my girlfriend were happy until xmas eve,i went round her house after work and as i usually did sometimes for dinner and to just hang out,it came to about 7 and she asked if i would go as she was tired ,i reluctantly agreed,as we went outside to say our goodbyes i asked her what was up as she seemed strange all night,after some nagging she told me that i was clingy and annoying,i was shocked by this,anyway after i got over the shock we talked abit and i told her why i was like this(as it is my first major relationship). It came to boxing day when i expected to see her next and she sed she did not want to see me,i thought this was strange but agreed anyway,the next day was a monday,a day that we had always spent together since we had been seeing eachother(5 1/2 months to that day),i again said ok as i expected to see her again in the week,it has now been 4 and a half weeks and i still have not seen her,we txt often but she is random with her txts,she always used to tell me she loves me but now she doesnt like hearing it let alone saying it,i am so confused,she says i never ask how shes feeling but i a lways ask her every day,i found out around a week ago that we were on a break but it wasnt a break up,i may be being stupid but it seems like a break up to me,she said she needs time to sort her head out as she has had alot of probs over the past year,im fine with this but i wish she would have at least asked me if she could have a break,when i txt her she says shes busy or doesnt reply and when i dont txt her she asks me what my problem is,i cant win woteva i do,to top it off today i asked her how her job interview went the other day(i found out she had a interview from her aunty who i bumped into at work),she txt me saying it was none of my business,i was like i thought i was your boyfriend,so after reading this slightly confusing thread what do you think? please help im caught in 2 minds what to do!!
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Secondly, if she is saying that you are being overly clingy, then the only way to rectify that situation is to be less clingy. Constantly texting her and such will not improve the situation, it will make it worse.
My advice for you would be to leave her alone for a few days and let *her* make the next move, that way she will feel more in control of the situation.
Its like if i txt her i get moaned at and if i dont i get moaned at,i will try what you said though and not txt her for a few days to see how that goes,i just dnt want to lose her but i dont think its for me to decide.
Yes but he also said wait until she makes the next move... and she did make the next move... have you spoken to her since that text?! you may have lost her already
Hope things work out whatever happens!
I txt her today to ask how she was and i got a mouthful and as i was so pissed off i asked her if she wanted to break up but she didnt answer that specific question,im determind not to txt her now until she txts me which i hope she does.
your mum speaks the truth. you seem like a nice lad, and no one deserves to be shat on like she is shitting on you.
She needs to stop messing you around.
'would I treat someone the way she is treating me?'
Then think about your answer.....
Get out of it now, i know you love her, but you sound like u can do much better. u dont deserve this at all!
*hugs*
SBG
She's right. You can do better.
Trust me.