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i lost my viginity a couple of days ago and it was so painful! and after the initial pain stage i thought that it was quite boring and not acually all that!
any tips on how i can make it more plesureable?
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Save yourself for when you really want the guy yourself rather than 'cos he wants it?
It takes time
Christina
(((((((((shine)))))))
It will get better eventualyy, but it took me about five tries, before i found someone that really excites me!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
I wonder if the earth has ever moved for anyone?? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
I thoud I saw a puddycat, I did, I did see a puddycat!!
In a good way of course and hes sort of made me that way now im always like oh shall we try this and being really adventurous and stuff.
I think sex is hyped up to be something its totally not, i mean i remember my friends at school going on about how great things were, and i remember one monday morning we were all round smokers corner talking about the night before when wed all gone out in a big group, with out boyfriends, and obviously things had happened and we were all just discussing it between ourselves and shaz was going on about how great it was and the guy she was seein was one of my ex's and i can safely say he was nothing special in that department he was just obring in out look after himself and i said have you ever even had an orgasm and she was like ermm i dont know, and then it started off a big discussion about how many of us actually had and probably the only time we had was off ourselves,
i think with nerves and everything else sometimes its hard to enjoy yourself because even if you are with someone your relaxed with you cant help being nervous no matter how much you want to do it, its like doing a bunjy jump, your desperate to do it but once you get up there and your gonna jump you cant help but think ARGHH! lol
Is it that your boyfriend wasnt very attentive to you or was it just not as good as what you were expecting?
I shouldnt really worry too much about it, it takes time to get the hang of things and pleasing each other, you should take time to get to know each others bodys and get him to please you without sex first.
Then once you ok with that im sure evrything will be fine <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I reckon when/if i lose my virginity i will probbaly pass out with the pain!!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
also it does help who you're with, my first bf was a virgin too and we didnt have sex until ages into our relationship for various reasons, he knew how to please me without full sex, but neither of us really knew what we were doing to begin with. it did get better though but i never actually came during sex with him.
but i have had an orgasm during sex before , so it can happen <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> but most women dont have an orgasm during sex itself.
if you just increase your foreplay, do more stuff, make it last longer, etc etc and hopefully it should get better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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lot when we make love. But we tend to do lots of foreplay so that may be something to do with it. I also feel really down when she doesnt, like all I have done is taken and not given back, is this normal?
When ur with ur bf Shine, get him to play with you a lot beforehand. It helps get you all relaxed and lets u have fun.