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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
How many of you would consider having an abortion??

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Depends on the situation I guess.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ok....what if you was with a bloke, it wasn't that serious or anything and you knew there wasn't really any future in it and you got pregnant - would you keep it??

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    At the moment i would say yes, i would have an abortion, but then i don't really know until i've been in that situation. It would also depend on how far gone i woz etc.

    [This message has been edited by Fab_UKgirlie (edited 30-08-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi genie well this is a bit of a sore subject but i have been in this situation!

    3 years ago i was seeing this bloke well he was a complete arsole looking back now but at the time i thought he was the best thing since sliced bread i mean he was a sort and i was just amazed how he would be with sum 1 like me u know that sort if thing!

    anyways i was with him for about 5 weeks he was just using me for sex and i was lapping it up cos i was 17 and just loved being with him but i knew deep down that we wernt gona have a future anyways i fell pregnant!

    i absolutely shit myself i didnt know what to do who to tell in the end i broke down to my mum after about 1 and a half months she knew anyways as i was putting on weight fast, so i thought about it and to be honest i wanted it but then thought bout the future and when the kid wanted to know his dad um u know that sort of stuff and i just went to the doctor after 3 months and after careful consideration had the abortion!

    i didnt ever see the dad again and he still to this day doesnt even know i know thats wrong but i thought that was the best thing. still think about it u know when u are walking down the street and see a baby and shite but i think it was the best thing as i was in college and wouldnt have had the funds to bring up a baby!!

    um so wats up genie are u preganant if you dont mind me asking???
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I accept I'm not female and all but I think abortions are a good idea and would definatly have one if I was pregnant and their where dodgy circumstances....

    I think from a new childs perspective, if the mother or father aren't ready then they shouldn't have a child, after all you've got to think about the standard of living the child is going to get once born.

    Children are a big commitment, personally if I ever do have any (and thats probably quite slim in the next 5 years) then I would make sure I was in a suitable position finantially and mentally... I'd want the child to have the best upbringing possible.

    Its better to have an abortion than risk giving the child a bad upbringing, unless your ready you shouldn't have kids... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Justin Credible:


    Children are a big commitment, personally if I ever do have any (and thats probably quite slim in the next 5 years) then I would make sure I was in a suitable position finantially and mentally... I'd want the child to have the best upbringing possible.

    Its better to have an abortion than risk giving the child a bad upbringing, unless your ready you shouldn't have kids... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    if you did become a dad, how would you deal with the fact that you are bisexual. Would you tell your child when at a suitable age? Wouldn't this cause the kid problems....


    [This message has been edited by badben (edited 30-08-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it depends on not only your age ut your situation, I mean loads of people have kids at a young age and make brill parents. But some people r just not ready for that sort of responsibility.

    I agree with the comments some other people have made about money and stuff, but until u r in that situation it can b hard 2 say.

    The only advice I would give 2 anyone thinking about this option is b ready 4 the after affects.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if you did become a dad, how would you deal with the fact that you are bisexual. Would you tell your child when at a suitable age?

    If my child asked me then I'd be honest with them but I don't honestly think it would cause that many problems, its not like I'm going to be flipping between males and females is it?

    When (and if) I have kids then I will have settled down with the person I choose to be with and my sexuality would be irelevent as I would only be interested in that person.

    I don't think the child would get much hassle either, for a start the other kids probably wouldn't even know because I'd be with my wife or whatever all the time and on top of that if you think how relaxed attitudes have become over the last 4 years then I can't see it being a big deal in 10 years or so. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Justin Credible:
    if you did become a dad, how would you deal with the fact that you are bisexual. Would you tell your child when at a suitable age?

    If my child asked me then I'd be honest with them but I don't honestly think it would cause that many problems, its not like I'm going to be flipping between males and females is it?

    When (and if) I have kids then I will have settled down with the person I choose to be with and my sexuality would be irelevent as I would only be interested in that person.

    I don't think the child would get much hassle either, for a start the other kids probably wouldn't even know because I'd be with my wife or whatever all the time and on top of that if you think how relaxed attitudes have become over the last 4 years then I can't see it being a big deal in 10 years or so. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    fair enough....I guess you're right about relaxed attitudes as well. I don't think you'd have a problem at all so long as you were faithful to your partner which I guess is no different to heterosexual people.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think you'd have a problem at all so long as you were faithful to your partner which I guess is no different to heterosexual people.

    I've always been a firm believer in being faithful, I don't cheat and don't tolorate cheating, just the way I am... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I always thought that if your a nice person then what goes around comes around (eventually.. I hope) but you know what the real world is like... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    As I was telling a mate last night, unfortuantly nice people often finish last or get walked over... its a shame..

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Genie:
    ok....what if you was with a bloke, it wasn't that serious or anything and you knew there wasn't really any future in it and you got pregnant - would you keep it??


    If I thought I could cope on my own and give it a good up - bringing then Id go ahead and have the baby.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that wheather or not a girl has an abortion is not due to opinions but has more to do with the situatation at the time.
    they have a very short time to make up there minds, and are clouded by facts and satistics, which I m sure mean nothing at the time. what I mean is this is a unfair question to ask unless it is relevant at the time.


    wise men talk because they have somthing to say, fools talk because they have to say somthing.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its difficult to describe to sum 1 the difficulties of actually having an abortion as the person said b4 u have to make up your mind within 3 months otherwise its too late and u have all these opinions and questions being thrown at u and it gets u stressed and down but if u make the decision to have the abortion u have to be 100% sure if not u will probly regret it for the rest of your life!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by bluey:

    um so wats up genie are u preganant if you dont mind me asking???

    Nah i'm not pregnant, I had a scare last week and it made me think about what I would do!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Shades of Green:
    what I mean is this is a unfair question to ask unless it is relevant at the time.



    I was only asking what peoples opinions of abortion were as I know some people are against it.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Genie:
    How many of you would consider having an abortion??

    I did consider abortion when I found out I was pregnant with Liam (as bad as that may seem to some people!). I even got an appointment for a consultation and went halfway there, but knew in my heart I couldnt do it without wanting to kill myself afterwards!

    I have nothing against abortion though, as long as its the right decision for the person involved and isnt used as a form of contraception repeatedly. I have to say also that if I hadnt considered all the options and just gone ahead with having the baby not even thinking sensible about abortion, then I dont think it would have been a mature or realistic way of looking at the situation.

    When u get pregnant young I think its vital u weigh up all your options and dont just think 'Im against abortion and want the baby' when u aint even considered everything that comes with it...and theres a fucking lot that comes with having a baby!

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think a lot of people think it is easy 2 do this and it ain't. I'm not dissing anyone just speaking from something I have never got over.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, speaking from my unfortunate experience, my ex gf had an abortion. Only thing was, she didnt tell me, she waited until I had gone on holiday and then she just stopped talking to me or answering my phone calls. All the time I thught her phone was broken or something, but instead she had simply gone and done something huge without telling me. I found out 4 months later in an e-mail from one of her friends.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thats dead bad, sorry mate.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Didn't mean it like that soz
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i had an abortion 2yrs ago now i was 15 at the time i thought i was doin the right thing but ever since i did it hurts thinkin about wot i did cus i wish i cud turn bak time and not do it all i think about now is havin another baby but im still 2 young so im gonna have 2 wait theres no point bringin an unwanted baby in2 the world
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