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Mistrust of best friend
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Some months ago one of my best friends suddenly told me about a whole deal of items she had aquired. Shoes, jeans, accesories, etc. I asked her on what occasion, being that a few days before she had been ranting about lack of money.
Apparently she had found an unattended bag at a club I think, taken the wallet, split the money with two others of her friends and taken the credit card... So basically she ended up using at least the equivalent of £500 of a strangers money.
Needless to say, I was in shock. I have never even stolen sweets as a kid. Her only thing was "Yes, I know it's wrong. But it was to teach the owner a lesson". Again, I was in shock. Especially as she has had so many of her own stuff stolen.
Didn't know what to tell her, and none of us ave mentioned it since.
Fast forward some months and I help her with her new apartment. A week previously I had bought some new expensive Tommy Hilfiger jeans for money which I really didn't have...
Now I was wearing my jeans when I arrived at the apartment, and changed to some more practical clothes. When we were finished, I was too lazy to change back.
I can't really remember wearing the jeans since, and have been searching for them for a week or two now. I asked her to check if they were at her apartment, which she says they weren't.
Now, because of the whole credit card thing, I have a hard time believing her and trusting her. And it's eating me up. Even if they genuinely aren't at her place, then I just can't trust her, and it's killing me.
It's a friend I've grown up with, and yes she has done a lot of shit, while I was her "good" example, but I never thought she would be able to do such a thing.
I now regret not "condemning" her credit card theft more specifically, and that I just let it pass as I wouldn't want her to get mad at me.
I feel uncomfortable being around her as I check my stuff. And it's just a really unpleasant situation to be in.
I don't really know why I am writing this. Guess I just needed it off my chest, as I for obvious reasons can't tell anyone real life.
Apparently she had found an unattended bag at a club I think, taken the wallet, split the money with two others of her friends and taken the credit card... So basically she ended up using at least the equivalent of £500 of a strangers money.
Needless to say, I was in shock. I have never even stolen sweets as a kid. Her only thing was "Yes, I know it's wrong. But it was to teach the owner a lesson". Again, I was in shock. Especially as she has had so many of her own stuff stolen.
Didn't know what to tell her, and none of us ave mentioned it since.
Fast forward some months and I help her with her new apartment. A week previously I had bought some new expensive Tommy Hilfiger jeans for money which I really didn't have...
Now I was wearing my jeans when I arrived at the apartment, and changed to some more practical clothes. When we were finished, I was too lazy to change back.
I can't really remember wearing the jeans since, and have been searching for them for a week or two now. I asked her to check if they were at her apartment, which she says they weren't.
Now, because of the whole credit card thing, I have a hard time believing her and trusting her. And it's eating me up. Even if they genuinely aren't at her place, then I just can't trust her, and it's killing me.
It's a friend I've grown up with, and yes she has done a lot of shit, while I was her "good" example, but I never thought she would be able to do such a thing.
I now regret not "condemning" her credit card theft more specifically, and that I just let it pass as I wouldn't want her to get mad at me.
I feel uncomfortable being around her as I check my stuff. And it's just a really unpleasant situation to be in.
I don't really know why I am writing this. Guess I just needed it off my chest, as I for obvious reasons can't tell anyone real life.
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When someone proves themselves to be so untrustworthy, it's very difficult to get that trust back. I always check the money in my wallet after we've been to GWST's parents because her younger sister can't be trusted to keep her hands to herself.
We are
Och:(
That's even harder to pin down the blame, even if she was wearing them she'd deny it. Gargh.
get a new friend?
SBG
A best friend is somebody you can trust, not a thief who would steal your stuff.
The credit card thing was stealing off a stranger, that’s as wrong but different to stealing off a friend. She’s dishonest because the credit card thing but is she that deceitful to nick stuff off a friend? You could ask her as Fiend_85 says, otherwise you’ll keep wondering and worrying.
Hope it works out!