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Sorry this is quite a long post. I hope it all makes sense the way i have written it.
Just over a year ago i met a girl who secretly liked me. i didn't fancy her at all but she started texting me and i didn't want to feel like i was being rude, so i usually replyed. she just said things that made me think she was quite depressed and i had to reply really. And then she started to send me goodnight texts. Eventually, she asked me out and i said no. All very flattering and everything but it didn't stop there...
I carried on getting messages from her, but was too nice/couldn't find a dipliomatic way of phraising 'ok, you don't have to text me every night', so it carried on. There were some nights when she didn't text and on those times, i started to miss her texting me, and sometimes i would text her. I can imagine this was a bit of a bad idea now, but i just wondered if she was ok.
At the moment I don't have a girlfreind, but there are times when i feel quite lonely and really fed up of being single. Because she still liked me (as she said), i thought about her more and more, and eventually i thought i liked her too. And I told her this. For a while now we've been texting each other quite a lot, and occasionally meeting, where we would get quite touchy towards each other and we even kissed once. All fine, or so I thought.
Then, just over a week ago, I bumped into a girl I used to fancy (and still do a bit) and I realised that I don't really like this girl as much as i think i should if we were to go out, and thats what i think will happen if i don't do something about it.
So what do i do? The thing is, i've got a pretty crap social life now most of my friends have gone to uni and i do want a girlfriend, but someone who i actually fancy, not someone who's convienient.
She says she's so happy when she's with me. I really don't want to hurt her, but I think i already have, because I've been unknowingly leading her along for quite some time now. I feel awful.
I hope that makes sense. I would like some advice, please...
Just over a year ago i met a girl who secretly liked me. i didn't fancy her at all but she started texting me and i didn't want to feel like i was being rude, so i usually replyed. she just said things that made me think she was quite depressed and i had to reply really. And then she started to send me goodnight texts. Eventually, she asked me out and i said no. All very flattering and everything but it didn't stop there...
I carried on getting messages from her, but was too nice/couldn't find a dipliomatic way of phraising 'ok, you don't have to text me every night', so it carried on. There were some nights when she didn't text and on those times, i started to miss her texting me, and sometimes i would text her. I can imagine this was a bit of a bad idea now, but i just wondered if she was ok.
At the moment I don't have a girlfreind, but there are times when i feel quite lonely and really fed up of being single. Because she still liked me (as she said), i thought about her more and more, and eventually i thought i liked her too. And I told her this. For a while now we've been texting each other quite a lot, and occasionally meeting, where we would get quite touchy towards each other and we even kissed once. All fine, or so I thought.
Then, just over a week ago, I bumped into a girl I used to fancy (and still do a bit) and I realised that I don't really like this girl as much as i think i should if we were to go out, and thats what i think will happen if i don't do something about it.
So what do i do? The thing is, i've got a pretty crap social life now most of my friends have gone to uni and i do want a girlfriend, but someone who i actually fancy, not someone who's convienient.
She says she's so happy when she's with me. I really don't want to hurt her, but I think i already have, because I've been unknowingly leading her along for quite some time now. I feel awful.
I hope that makes sense. I would like some advice, please...
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Hope this helps mate