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Safest possible form of sex
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What can you use to have the safest possible form of sex?
I understand that nothing can be totally 100% guaranteed but the closest to 100 the better.
The reason I ask is that the risk of becoming pregnant from sex when not trying to make someone pregnant just totally puts me off having sex.
So I may really want to have sex but then not wanting someone to get pregnant will make me want to stay a virgin until i'm ready to have sex & potentially get someone pregnant.
I understand that nothing can be totally 100% guaranteed but the closest to 100 the better.
The reason I ask is that the risk of becoming pregnant from sex when not trying to make someone pregnant just totally puts me off having sex.
So I may really want to have sex but then not wanting someone to get pregnant will make me want to stay a virgin until i'm ready to have sex & potentially get someone pregnant.
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A condom, rolled on correctly is about 95% effective.
The pill, taken properly, is about 98% effective.
Use both and you've cracked it.
Bad advice dear, even if you dont fully cum there is always pre cum.
I remember telling that to an old friend of mine when she first started having sex and her bf told me that he didnt get precum and he could hold it back. Stupid boy. I just left them to it in the end. Couldnt be bothered.
Would there still be a problem if one person is a virgin & the other person has only had one sexual partner that is clean of any sti's?
I'd say to be careful, but then I'd be a hypocrite.
I should have been more careful when I lost my virginity, but I wasn't. And I haven't died yet...
So could HIV still be a risk if you have:
virgin boy & virgin girl have sex
then
former virgin girl & new virgin boy?
It's is extremly unlikely that you'd catch HIV of a person who is genuinly a virgin, but you can get it from blood as well. As far as I know you can pick up bacterial infections while still being a virgin, though I'm not totally confident on that.
Yes,
You can get HIV, in the first place, through things other than sex:- you can catch HIV from having ANY contact with bodily fluids.
If, for example, you've scratched your hand and you touch somebody else's blood - you can get HIV - you could be a virgin, you could have had sex a million times before, HIV is not only transmitted through sex. In this same senario, you could get HIV from a hand-job on an infected person.
No sex, does NOT equal, No HIV!
It was meant to say former edited now:)
Former is as in the virgin girl is no longer a virgin so 'former' virgin.
New is the 2nd boy that the girl will have sex with who is a virgin.
phone sex is only safe if you put a condom over the handset
You can talk around this subject as much as you like, but the long and short of it is: use a condom. Most people worry solely about pregnancy when they start having sex, but STIs are a real risk. That said, pregnancy is, too, of course. But you don't need to let your worries overshadow your enjoyment. Take the right precautions, talk to your partenr so that you're both happy and then you can relax.
Have a read through some of TheSite's factsheets on contraception
and STIs so that you understand it all a bit better.