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Homesickness at University
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It's just a random brain fart this post, but does anyone else find it strange how, during the first month of term, the universities all have a legion of counsellors to help those who are homesick. After a month they all disappear, but for many it's only after a month that they feel it, when the organised parties stop and they don't have any mates.
Just been thinking as to how "homesickness" is such a big issue until its a relevant one. If after two months you're homesick or lonely, don't feel abnormal, you're not.
Just been thinking as to how "homesickness" is such a big issue until its a relevant one. If after two months you're homesick or lonely, don't feel abnormal, you're not.
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i think they're all apparent during the fresher month, but then they retreat and you have to work to find them... i cant really give a valid opinion as i dont know much about them having been only a fresher for a few days.
Susie
heh.
fankies.
it is, but as kermit said it is only really advertised during freshers week.
homesickness hit me after there was an accident at home and i felt really far away. that was about week 6/7, after the novelty wore off a bit.
Most people don't start to get homesick until the novelty has worn off, and they haven't slotted into their new lifelong friend group by day 13. And then there's the misery-trigger of "housing groups", which of course must be decided by December 10 :rolleyes:
which was nothing special, R'n'B galore, 20-45 minute wait for drinks at the bar, a block of flats full of people that i just dont feel i connect with (whatever that means)
The prospect of gaining a good degree is something that i really cant complain about, as well as the phenominal amount of support available, thanks to us living in this not-to-bad-if-ya-think-about-it 1st world Gaff of ours (rambling now) but i cant deny that i've felt indifferent-mildly depressed during this week:p
Ilora x
I ended up lying on my bed in a dark room under my fleece huddled up, not all the time, but for some reason i found more comfort in that than anything else.
It helps to be able to talk to someone; a parent, a mate from home, a mate who's gone to another uni, a new mate you've met at your uni or a uni councellor. Its a big step leaving home for the first time to go to uni, its totally understandable to feel homesick.
The key is to stop thinking about how long u have to stay there for - til Xmas or whatever. Set yourself a short term goal like, 3 weeks time I'm gonna go home for a weekend. And then as you approach it put it off if you're comfortable, say just for another week; or go home if you need to.
Hi i'm in my second year of university!
I still get home sick here and its normally because of who i'm living with. Not to say anything bad about them but sometimes I feel isolated from them because I don't want to go out and get drunk all the time. That i'm content to just stay in and watch a film rather than going out and getting drunk. I feel like since being here I've changed because I don't want to be left out of things but I've soon come to realise that maybe the reason i'm feeling so miserable is because i'm not being myself. I'm feeling ridiculously homesick at the moment but I know its only because I've been hiding away in my room for the past few days. I'd suggest going home for a weekend just so you can clear your head so when you come back you will have thought out clearly if you is really the right thing for you. Everybody gets homesick at some point even if they don't admit it. If people you talk to brush it off as nothing then don't go to them about it find someone who is feeling the same way as you! Its better if you find that person who appears to be quite and keeps out the way because normally there the ones that are going through it with it. I'd love to say it gets easier but i'm in second year and still want to run home everytime it gets hard. But having my support system that I've had all my life taken away from me and expected to find a new one in a matter of weeks just isn't possible. Talk to other friends from home that have gone to uni because normally there feeling the same. I know my best friend was and when we get really down we have a code that we text each other letting them know that we need help ASAP!
But the one thing is don't let it ruin you uni experience because if you sit around moping your going to miss out on the great things about uni and that's getting to meet such a range of different people from so many different experiences! Its a once in a life time experience so remember to enjoy it sometimes.
Hope this helps
Charlotte xx
Thanks for your lovely reply to this thread - you relay some relevant personal experience and it feels like you've taken some time and care. Just to let you know it's always worth checking dates on threads, as this one was from quite a few years ago and Kermit has long since graduated. Feel free to check out some more recent threads on the topic, or even start your own.
Happy posting,
Helen