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Lie about what, Kermit?
I'd disagree with that, I don't like the idea of rape and sex being mixed. Rape isn't about sex, or the sex is not the central theme in many cases.
Magdal: people who lie about being raped are the scum of the earth.
im sorry but where is the proof he is lying?
I hope you're not suggesting he's lying. That wouldn't be very helpful.
I'm referring to what the King of Glasgow said earlier on. Nothing else.
Who knows if he is lying or not, he should at least not be ungrateful for the advice we give.
Sorry if that offends anyone, that's just what I think.
ok.
sometimes it is hard to take advice, even if you know it is the right thing to do. you can have all this advice in front of you but making that step is difficult. surely you understand that?
it was a brave step him coming onto the boards to even admit that he has a problem but its another big step to actually do anything about the problem. start getting onto him if you want if/when he turns into another luby/hellfire when they just ignore all the advice given hundreds and hundreds of times. til then, give him the benefit of the doubt.
I think it was this comment that made us sit up. All we had done was offer some advice and support, without really knowing much about his situation. This comment seemed a little out of place. And lying or trivialising something as serious as rape really shouldn't be condoned at all. Why else would he say this, unless he or we have our wires crossed about something. I really hope he isn't lying about it, and yeah, there isn't any proof.
I agree completely.
He was referring to something I said.
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yes, i understand but IF he is telling the truth right now he will be quite scared and paranoid which came across in his post.
i do understand what you guys are saying, honestly. rape is one of the scummest things on this planet and i hate it when people lie about it. but i think that this guy is a bit scared and we should give him the benefit of the doubt.
IF he turns out to be a troll then you can all tell me "i told you so" or stone me or something.
Yes, but that wasn't my point.
both seem a mite ungrateful after we spent time finding those resources.
There's ignoring it, and there's throwing it back in someone's face.
I don't know or care about trolling. I just don't like rudeness- if you don't like the advice, just ignore it, or ask more specifically for something.
You're going to make the guy feel like no one cares. That's not really what he needs just now by the sounds of things.
I wasn't trying to offend by moving it here - it's more that this is where I can read it most as it's one of my boards (and relationships isn't) - I can move it to health though if you think it's better.
As for the troll issue, I really think that some of you need to give people the benefit of the doubt rather than assuming that every newbie is green with yellow spots.
while you are not alone, your problems 'are' very personal to you and if i were in that position i shouldn't imagine i'd find talking about it with other male victims very helpful - alltho any decent girlfriend should understand and spare all the time you need.
has it ever stopped you doing something in your life?
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i think someone's been scared off by the looks of things....a bit sad really.