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Summer Fling??
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I have a mate called Mark who I got off with (snogged) about 2 years ago and have been mates ever since - he asked me out, but I turned him down...
Last night, we snogged again... and he asked me out again... I'm goin to uni in October so I don't know if it'd be worth saying yes.
He's also a bit of a get around and has cheated on pretty much every girlfriend he's had - he often came running to me telling me how he's 'done wrong' so to speak.
He now says he wants to settle down with a nice girl (like me) because he's sick of the life he's had...
I have no idea what to do.. (he was also one of my first kisses lol)
Ilora x
Last night, we snogged again... and he asked me out again... I'm goin to uni in October so I don't know if it'd be worth saying yes.
He's also a bit of a get around and has cheated on pretty much every girlfriend he's had - he often came running to me telling me how he's 'done wrong' so to speak.
He now says he wants to settle down with a nice girl (like me) because he's sick of the life he's had...
I have no idea what to do.. (he was also one of my first kisses lol)
Ilora x
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If you go into a relationship with him now, i think you'd have to be certain about it, as if you started uni then he cheated on you, or you couldnt trust him, then it could affect your education :yes:
Maybe if you are prepared to give it a shot, talk to him and tell him your worries??
SBG
The answer is there, if you go out with him, he will cheat on you. You know this. You will not be able to change him, and he will not change for you. Getting any further involved with him will only lead to you feeling used, and having your heart broken. You know this too.
I just don't know if I'm ready for a relationship (but I would like to be!) with someone so 'experienced' due to the fact that I'm so unbelievably inexperienced. I really like him and feel comfortable with him, it's just his reputation I'm not comfortable with
Ilora x
if you dont feel ready for a relationship, then you should wait until you are ready, not until you think you are. You cant be fully happy and comfy with him, if you cant accept his reputation! its only natural to be uncomfortable with that - but you say you believe he's gonna change??? are you sure of this, or is it something you would like to believe, just like you believe you want him???
SBG
I think you should know for yourself if you can trust him or not!
As Sponge has said: Some people can change for the better!
Telling him about this is probably the best idea IMO.
See how he reacts and then decide.
Personally, I agree with them. If he's cheated on pretty much every girlfriend he's had, I don't think he'll be loyal to you - especially when you've gone off to university.
If I were in your position, I'd tell him that I'm not interested in a relationship right now, and just stay as being friends
Thanks guys, you've helped loads - Something tells me I know that he'd cheat don't want a broken heart again... thanks guys
Ilora x