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argh. She's back

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
ok heres the thing, im totally in love with my ex gf, who i broke up with if anyone cared enough to read my last post, she was away on hols and now shes back, she said hello to me a few times today, within a few seconds of eachother even though she was talking to my mum at the time, but all i could say was hey, or just smile, i feel sick from anxiety and regret when i see her, i feel like a total tit for leaving her, i see her too often just to be able to forget about her, and im not really in the mood for a girlfriend that isnt her. So what should i do, brave it and just sit in my mums shop while her and her mates roam around or do i tell her not to come in while im working? Personally i think the altters a bit extreme but that may be love clouding my vision a tad.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok, so you like her, you feel like a tit for leaving her, you can't forget about her, you don't want to be with anyone else except her.... why are you not with her?! :confused: Ask her out again! If you tell her that you've been a tit and are really sorry etc, etc, she'll probably come round :yes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If I were you I would find out how she feels about the situation first - perhaps from a mutual friend?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dave, hunny, sweetie, please take my adive. She has a bf, she says she loves him. Tell her not to come in you shop when your there. Ask your mum for set days to work and then tell her not to come in on those days, like she can have the shop on the weekends. I know it seems silly, cos like...its a shop not your child....

    I know it hard. Trust me I know all to well.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ah so she has someone else? Chances are she's just coming in to the shop to wind you up and make you upset because she wants to get you back for dumping her.

    Of course I don't know you or your situation though.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Shes not coming in to wind me up, if she was doing that she would bring him in with her. I think her main problem is she doesnt think she can trust me with her heart again, she doesnt love him she loves me....well she told me she still loves me a wee bit, she said she loved him more, but a few things about him i know she really hates about people in general, all her mates hate him, and im not going to be childish enough to say when she is and when she is not allowed to come into my shop. i mean what type of reprobate would do that?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As some have already said could you not arrange to come into the shop only when you know she won't be there and run it by her, explaining you think it's best for you both that you seen as little of each other as possible to help gain closure from your relationship with her.

    I mean you mention about how she still loves you a little bit even though she loves her new lad more... but then add her mates hate him, like you are expecting that they won't last long. Don't get me wrong maybe there is a chance you and your ex might get back together as it seems that's what you want, but do you really want to put your life on hold till then? If she can move on, so can you.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, i think ill try to get my mind into the mindframe i was in when i broke up with her, best way to do that, go to gigs, listen to motley crue and look at porn! I feel like shit at the mo though
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Know exactly how you feel and not seeing her would be for the best for now.... the saying out of sight.. out of mind is a very true saying.... A bit of time without constantly seeing her will help ya get things in perspective

    Dont hang onto the idea of you to getting back together... may happen but until that happens make the most of the porn!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah, another problem arose, i spent alot of yesterday with one of her mates....and well i like her alot. AND my brother fancies her. AND i think she likes me too. Problems seem to look for me
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