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heehe...;)
Hmmm.... ok :eek2:
Pressure I suppose has been always there, but it defintely has increased coz not only do kids get peer pressure from their mates by trying to keep up with the times... it's also spread all over the telly.
I personally don't think I've ever felt the pressure, when I think back. I only did what I wanted.
My niece is coming 10 soon and I'm freaking what she'll be getting up to in a matter of a few years :nervous:
What's the definition of the word "whore"?:p
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ok lets replace my wording of 'whore' with slapper
*looks up definition of slapper*
dont take it personally, i dont mean that its the same for everyone im just speaking generally about the types who were at my school
i had a very good friend who wasnt the typical whore type yet she has ended up with a baby
Lads don't seem to mind bikes so much:p
depends what sorts of lads though, not the ones i'd like to know
the only thing that annoyed me about the girls was the fact that they thought they were so superior to us quiet lot who didnt talk about our sex lives just because the whole class knew they sucked a cock last night down an alley way
it wasnt a competition, just disgust towards them because they had no self respect or intelligence..
It's not crictising, it's about being concerned for the way the kids are brought up in todays society.
No one is saying we should stop offering advice to them. Point is, it is illlegal to have sex under 16 and we're just discussing why.
Yeah, it's great to be sharing experiences... but can you not see it is just simply wrong for a likes of a 13-14 year old to be having those kinda experiences in the first place. :eek2:
Yeah to us! I didn't do any of that stuff when I was 13 and wouldn't think of doing it if I could go back. But telling any 13 yr old that what they just wrote is pretty disgusting coming from him/her and that they shouldn't have been doing that in the first place, is humiliating and most will probably not bother posting again 'cuz of the reaction received and therefore leave without any more information then when they came, I think.
Hmmm...... but no one is posting saying it's disgusting - I actually find it more distrubing :eek2:
You trying to tell me, you would encourage this sort of behaviour then? Do you not care that perhaps your little cousin/brother/sister what ever, could be having sex at such an inappropriate age?!
Bloody hell wee girl, I ain't going to argue with ya in both threads :rolleyes:
You get 'side comments' everywhere and everything - The world is a cruel-ruthless place. What can ya do about it?
So if you were to see a young 14 year old come online to ask how to give the right blow job... would you offer advice?! This is were I put my foot down and say I couldn't... as that's just encouraging her to think it's normal to do that at that age... when it's not.
Good! No more!:no: it's tiring me out!
I'm sure people on this site would not be as cold and only show concern for why they think they have to be put in that position... reassuing them they should not be doing that if they don't feel comfortable.
I don't think I've ever seen anyone being crisitcised personally over the information they share about their sex life whether they're underage or not.
You and me both...
Other countries have different ages of consent - if I recall correctly, it's sort of 12 in some European countries, and 17 in some American states (I remember that Anna Kornikova hit the headlines in the run up to the US Open one year because she was 16 at the time and some New York cop had warned her that she better not get up to anything with her boyfriend while they were staying there!!)
I guess all I'm saying is that we can't just assume that everyone agrees that sex before 16 is a bad idea and sex at 16 is OK.
yeah no1 seems to have caught on but "having your love deep inside me" came from blues songs, and classic rock songs where "love" meant "cock" eg. " i wanna give you my love, i wanna give you every inch of my love" (zeppelin, whole lotta love)
Even now, I tend to only visit this forum once in a while-but when I first joined this forum I was more I dunno, sex starved? So I guess coming (pun totally intended!) on here helped me see more info. Now I don't go on hwere as much as I get fed up of reading the "whats the best way to fistfuck a girl?" type threads. I just don't wanna read them-and I guess the hormone raging teen wants to look on here tho-like I did with the magazines. Just on here nothing is out of bounds.
Dunno where this is taking me, kinda ramblin soz!
Also- don't think that all underage sexually active people have 'sleezy' sex. I know plenty of people who lost their virginity at 15 (myself included) in a stable relationship. Consequently they have no regrets
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/talking_point/3920133.stm
could it be anything to do with the fact that sex at 16 is legal, while sex at 15 and younger is illegal?
in a similar way to how it's ok to drive 30 mph down a 30 mph road, but doing 31 is wrong?
Yes, maybe children younger than 16 are emotionally and physically mature enough to have sex, but a lot aren't. I don't think a lot are at 16 or 17 either, to be quite honest.
There is something disturbing about young children having sex, and, like it or not, 14-year-olds are young children. You don't think you are when you're 14, but you think back when you are 22, 32, 42 and realise that you were. Hugely.
These are children who are deliberately not using ANY protection "because it's more exciting". They are not old enough to understand consequences, it's all about the time and the place and those "horny" feelings.
A child's teenage years are for experimenting with sex, but that does not go as far as woirking through the Karma Sutra. I wouldn't have so much trouble with a 14-year-old giving her first handjob or blowjob, it's called experimenting, but I do have trouble with teenagers who are having six or seven partners before they are 16.
What laso concerns me, mroe than anything else, is who they are having sex with. Several women's centres in Sunderland and The Shields are starting to refuse to give condoms out because 14-year-old girls are not having sex with their peers, but with men who are 19 or 20. And any fool can see that that is sick.
There is a reason why the law is as it is- it is to PROTECT vulnerable children. It sound patronising, but they don't know what they are doing, and they don't understand the consequences. She might have the body, but she certainly doesn't have the mind; he might have the body, but he certainly doesn't have the mind. If they had the mind they'd at least wear a condom.
For all those who think that teen feelings should be "protected" because they might get a bit upset when they're told to keep their cock in their pants, they prove my point exactly. Physical maturity does not mean mental maturity- just because they can doesn't mean they should.
I'm sorry, I jsut don't believe that "old enough to bleed, old enough to butcher".
Yep, definitely... I remember thinking I was really grown up when I was 14, but still feel quite young emotionally now at 21, and realise that I was a child at 14!
Agree with this too... I was lucky enough to have one boyfriend from when I was 13 til I was 16, and whilst I did my fair share of experimenting in those years, it was all with one person who I totally trusted and I didn't end up having sex until I was nearly 16.
I have no sex life what so ever and so I can only just imagine what it's like, really.
Although I do comment, some of it is a bit graphic, but we're all mature folks around here aren't we?
I laughed so hard at that.
It isn't that interesting to talk about once it becomes a normal part of life. All the underage girls enjoy talking about stuff that they're technically not meant to do. Rebels.
Just smile and carry on.
I lost my virginty at 14. I'd been with my boyfriend for 6 months, we were in love, we used a condom every time and within about 3 months i went and got the contraceptive injection. Although we broke up a couple of times the relationship lasted for around 3 years.
Nearly 4 years since i lost my virginity, im in a serious relationship with another person, the 3rd person i've slept with. I look back with no regrets, i still know we were in love, i knew what i was doing, and at least in that part of my life, i was mature enough.
I know alot of people at 14/15 aren't ready for sex but i'm sure i'm not the only person with my experiences.