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Im scared to swallow....
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...my b/f's cum, but i really want to. his tastes very strong+there's always lots of it. But the reason i am scared is that with my first b/f when i gave him his 1st b.j (first time id given one too) he held my head down and said "it isnt a real b.j unless you swallow it all" i choked+he just laughed and said "looks like you need some practice"
I know my current guy would never do that, but it still freaks me out alot. Ive told him about it+he was really angry ( this guy did, and still does, alot of mean things to me and my b.f is all out for killing him :mad: ) but re-assured me alot. It'd really boost things for both of us if i could just conquer my fear - HELP
I know my current guy would never do that, but it still freaks me out alot. Ive told him about it+he was really angry ( this guy did, and still does, alot of mean things to me and my b.f is all out for killing him :mad: ) but re-assured me alot. It'd really boost things for both of us if i could just conquer my fear - HELP
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Personally I would wait, the memory of what your ex did will fade somewhat the longer you are in a trusting and caring relationship.
Just try not to worry about it and then just do it when you feel ready, dont plan it or build yourself up to it.
Stupid how one pathetic guy can still affect your life yrs later
Some blokes are nasty, and I'm sorry you have had dealings with them, but to suggest that ALL men think one way or another is just rubbish.
Most men are considerably nicer lovers these days than they would have been 20 or 30 years ago.
But if I were to write on here that all women are bitches and crap in bed, well I'd get lynched wouldnt I.
BUT, that does not excuse the behavior which you described, I am sorry that one of my sex has tarred all of us like that.
Well, all I can say is hopefully when women stop going out with bastards they will die out.
But then I've seen at least a couple of posters on here who specifically say they like going out with bastards, I have never understood that.
I can see where your coming from, obviously if you have two or more boyfriends who are like that then I'm guessing it could be easy to assume that they are all like that.
I do think it is easy for men to get a wierd fixation about BJ, they are such a symbolic jesture for better or worse.
I think the influence of porn is seen more through with that one act than the others, the traditional 'money shot' is the ending to most.
It is shown to be something women enjoy being servile during, which of course has an impact upon how men see it.
It will make no difference. A lot of girls dont swallow, theres no law that says you have to, and by then hes already come so what difference does it make if you dont swallow it?
Im not surprised youre nervous after what your ex did, but I dont think you need to put yourself under pressure to swallow, just tell him thats not something youre gonna do - he should be grateful hes getting a BJ at all.
Very true, I personally dont care when getting head whether a girl spits or swallows cos u gotta think, man thats not a nice taste but you gotta do whats comfortable for you cos its for yours and your bf's pleasure so find a middle ground suitable for you both.
Relax basically
But if you really do want to swallow him then an idea might be to get him to tell you just before he is about to ejaculate then direct it either to the roof of your mouth or into your cheek, as opposed to the back of your throat. If you don't like it that much then you can always spit it out. Or if you are feeling daring you can just grin and bear it
that is exactly what i was thinking.make it kinky for him and hands free safe for you!i have been exactly where you are,except with a lot more stuff. a few years ago i was raped and he was very rough,i didn't want be around nick for months,and did not want to be active for a long time,it scared me everytime i thought about having sex,i would start crying and everything.i now realize that he isn't going to hurt me,but it was hard to do that.until one night he did this incredibly romantic thing and i gave in,lol,and been givin in ever since!so either face your fears and do the kinky thing(or whatever works for you)or wait a while,the fear will go away by itself,it won't take as long as mine did,but you can do it.and that is my biggest nightmare that someone would do that to me,what he did to you is horrible!
Your boyfriend will, if he's worth anything, be very supportive and try to help you. If you want to do it you just need to break the emotional link between semen in the mouith and violence; if the link becomes semen and love and affection, it will be easier to do.
Mind, I don't envy girls swallowing :yuck:
Hehe it all depends what you guys have been eating & drinking *nods*.
I eat lots of nice things
So you should be a sweet guy
:flirt:
You seem nice though.
It made me giggle seeing a man use that.
any1 else heard this?
ah asking girls they always seem to aovid the question - but this gay dude i know reckons its complete bollocks and he shuld know
To be honest, I don't see the problem with swallowing bar the nasty aftertaste - which can be easily remidied by something sweet.
Recently, I swallowed. I've only swallowed when I was pissed as a fart; usually to guys I really liked. The other night I did it stone cold sober, and all it took was two minutes at most - ETA to swallow, not for my man to come.
If you're worried about the consisitency/amount, then have sex a few times BEFORE any oral sex, this will thin out any sperm from there on.
You sound like you have a decent man on your hands, if you still feel uncomfortable, I'm sure he won't think any less of you. People still have great sex lives without swallowing any body fluids.
Good luck!
There's some helpful info in this article, especially in the last section.
CB