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Overr the past few weeks I think I'm starting to fancy my co-worker.
She's not that much younger than me (she's 20 so that's about 4 years) and she has a nice body and a good personality.
The thing is she said she was married when she first joined our organisation (which was last year) but today she said she was getting divorced.
I thought to myself that her being married meant I was having a harmless infatuation and should get over it, but the divorce thing opens up new querstions.
Seeing she'd be single again soon, should I pursue it??
She's not that much younger than me (she's 20 so that's about 4 years) and she has a nice body and a good personality.
The thing is she said she was married when she first joined our organisation (which was last year) but today she said she was getting divorced.
I thought to myself that her being married meant I was having a harmless infatuation and should get over it, but the divorce thing opens up new querstions.
Seeing she'd be single again soon, should I pursue it??
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I wouldn't ever have a work relationship again, - last time was a complete nightmare.
Good luck to you though!
Arrange a works drink one night in a pub to get to know her better and where you've got other friends to fall back on and feel comfortable enough with if she knocks you back.
I met my current boyfriend at work and I was in another serious relationship at the time. I called it off to be with him 'cuz I knew that I couldn't ignore my feelings anymore. Staying with my ex and trying to ignore my feelings for someone else was one of the worst and hardest things I've ever done.
I don't work with my boyfriend anymore but I'd say that is a good thing. We got together properly after he left the job but I doubt I'd have been able to keep up a full-blown relationship with someone I worked with all the time.
Also, no disrespect to this girl, but if she is only 20 and has been married and divorced, is she really the kind of person you want to get involved with? There could be quite a lot at stake if it all goes wrong, but then again if you don't ask you'll never know!
Also, you say you've only just started to feel this way about her in the past couple of weeks even though you've been there a while. I would just give it a bit of time to see how she's doing and how you feel about her now that it is a possibility.
Thanks!!:cool:
Not to sound dumb but how would I do that?? I'd feel too awkward (or am I just being too pussyish??! I'm not normally that unconfident! ).
I think my attraction to her is largely a physical one; as I said I think her body is good. But I like her as a person too.
I guess. And I do understand that so soon after a major relationship she may be looking for a rebound or she may not be ready or willing for another relationship.
If you thought you'd get knocked back straight away, you wouldn't be on here asking how to ask her out so there must be something there! Just use your gut feeling... and make sure you're comfortable around her!
exactly what i was thinking. already divorced at 20? there's something very wrong there.
personally i'd steer well clear.