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Too nervous?
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Me and my boyfriend have been together a few weeks but we've been friends (and pretty much crazy about one another) for over a year now. I really like him and want to take it a step further.
Thing is, when we tried, he got too nervous and had to stop. Since then we've spent the night together a few times but never done anything past foreplay (which is great and I'm not complaining as such) but it does work one up a bit, if you get me.... Anyways, now I daren't initiate actual sex incase he's still too nervous and I think he's too embarrassed to bring up the issue now.
I knew him when he was with his last girlfriend and they were at it like rabbits, so it's not a lack of experience issue.
How can I help him be more comfortable with me? I really want this to work so I don't want to push him into anything if he's not ready but it's driving me mad because I've liked him for so long! And its giving me all these paranoid 'what if he doesn't like me' thoughts.
Any help would be muchos appricaited.
xxxx
Thing is, when we tried, he got too nervous and had to stop. Since then we've spent the night together a few times but never done anything past foreplay (which is great and I'm not complaining as such) but it does work one up a bit, if you get me.... Anyways, now I daren't initiate actual sex incase he's still too nervous and I think he's too embarrassed to bring up the issue now.
I knew him when he was with his last girlfriend and they were at it like rabbits, so it's not a lack of experience issue.
How can I help him be more comfortable with me? I really want this to work so I don't want to push him into anything if he's not ready but it's driving me mad because I've liked him for so long! And its giving me all these paranoid 'what if he doesn't like me' thoughts.
Any help would be muchos appricaited.
xxxx
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If he's nervous but you both trust each other muchly then you could try blindfolding him once you're in bed. It works.
Feels like the first time all over again!
Feck that... give him a BJ and swallow!
This article from TheSite may help some.
CB