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I split up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago after being in an intense 7 month relationship, at first I was totally in love with him but the jealousy and the emotional blackmail got too much and I ended up feeling unhappy so I ended it. I do still love him but i'm just not in love with him and I still want to be friends with him, even if it is a long shot but none of this is the point.
Well ever since we’ve split up i've just felt totally numb, I don’t want him back, I don’t hate him, I don’t miss him as a boyfriend, I wasn’t even upset. I feel like I should feel something and I feel terrible that I don’t. What’s wrong with me?
Tigerlilly :wave:
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Well ever since we’ve split up i've just felt totally numb, I don’t want him back, I don’t hate him, I don’t miss him as a boyfriend, I wasn’t even upset. I feel like I should feel something and I feel terrible that I don’t. What’s wrong with me?
Tigerlilly :wave:
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just be glad you could end it, you said you were unhappy so you can be happy now its over and you can move on with your life
It's very cliched and doesn't help too much, but all it takes is time really. Time apart, in particular. It's a great thing to try to be friends afterwards but only if you know you'll get on just as friends, and if you know it's not just because you're trying to hang on to the remains of a relationship. ANd you both definitely need time by yourselves to settle your feelings before you start working on a friendship.
I'm not just preaching, I'm going through the same thing at the moment - I split up with my boyfriend at New Year and I'm sure we can one day be friends again, so we've said we'll try - but we still need a little time apart first, and not seeing him or talking to him very much is helping me, even though I miss him, to get used to not having him around.
So I'm kinda like the person on the other side of things...
I'm interested to know how you can fall out of love with someone, I guess I just dont really wanna believe that he doesnt love me anymore.
Maybe u could help explain these matters of the heart??
And as far as the numb feeling goes, I kinda feel numb sometimes too, so I think its just a general human tactic to get over stuff really. Feeling numb= not feeling upset= better than feeling upset.
he tried to stop me seeing my friends, and if i did see them he made sure he was always there, he made me feel worthless at times and we argued quite alot. he was very jealous and suffering from depression due to his past and i wanted to try and help him. at the end of the day i think i made things worse and eventually my feelings started to change and i started to care more for him as a friend rather than boyfriend.
that makes the relationship i was in sound terrible and it really really wasnt, there were lots of great times too but the bad things are the things that made me realise that my feelings towards him were changing.
i dunno if any of that is any help to you ryoko_rock but thats how my situation made me realise my feelings.