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Ok, i now have my first girlfreind (finally! *grumbles about it being about damn time, im nearish to 18!*) I think things are going ok. At some point im going to want her here arnt i? I dont know how/when to tell my parents about her though. Because she is my first girlfreind and my mum will worry. Also i think they will worry that she is 19, 18 months older than me! So any help with what i should do will be appreciated.:)
I was going to ask the same about letting people i know know, but someone i thought i could trust blabbed. So they all know. I seem to be getting alot of comments about her even though they dont know her, due to the fact that her family is originally from Asia someone. Yeah so any help about dealing with well what could only be said to be rascist comments would be helpful too.
I was going to ask the same about letting people i know know, but someone i thought i could trust blabbed. So they all know. I seem to be getting alot of comments about her even though they dont know her, due to the fact that her family is originally from Asia someone. Yeah so any help about dealing with well what could only be said to be rascist comments would be helpful too.
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but i think they appreciate the fact i speak to them about it - my mum says she thinks im really grown up (with how i act with everything)
You think thats bad? I'm 22 and one of my ex girlfriends was 8 years older than me. She was tasty though. Older woman
When your sitting there in the same room as your folks and their talking about someone, maybe their partner or what ever... say, I'm seeing someone too and take it form there. If not just spark up a convo about something and happen drop it in that your seeing someone at the moment. It's no biggie really. I'm sure their be very happy for you!
And if they (people) start to make racial comments tell to mind their own sodding business. It's you that is going out with her, not them. Or maybe just be really sarcastic, not insulting, sarcastic. I am when people are like that with me and then when I give them a sweet dose of sarcastic wit they tend to shut up.
Just remember to chill out 'ma man, it's not like your 2-0 down in a World Cup final with only 9 men and just remember you are going out with her and NOT anyone else. If your happy then sod what everyone else says. As I said, I'm sure your folk will be happy. If your mum is a little worried about the age gap, tell it's nothing to worry about because you nearly an adult and you can be reasonable despite what she thinks. Don't be to Hasty wither though as she's only looking out for you.
Good luck dude.
Nothing had been actually happening but it still felt as if i was going back on what Id said before.
Just say it, Its easier.
"Where are you going son?"
"Just to meet (insert girly name here)"
"Oh, who is that, I've not heard you mention her before?"
"Tis my new girfriend"
Done.
That was what I used to do
Good luck :thumb: xx
And me.
Then run out the dorr before the spanish inquisition starts!
have i missed something
i think with his friends it might be the fact that she's asian. thats what he's said anyway, he said they're talking about her because she's asian.
if thats the case, you need to ignore their ignorant views. it doesnt matter what skin your parents wrap you up in, its your soul and your mind that make you the person.
As for telling ur rents, just drop it into convo, or say it just before u leave the house. done that before... Once my mum found out who my bf was by picking up my phone n reading the texts...
I'll say what happens if anything on Wednesday
As for the guys, most seem to be ok with it actually. Just a couple of twats being twatish. One person spread it around work (where we both work!):rolleyes:
your mum reads your messages?
god, i'd die if mine did :eek2:
Another Norman Bates in the making! :crazyeyes
Originally posted by TheShyBoyInTheCorner
my mum says im too good for any girl, and don't need a girlfriend.
i think a lot of mum's will tell their son's that....:p
Why exactly did your mates follow you? Seems a bit immature for 18.
And also, don't sneak about with her, she'll think you're ashamed of her. And what's wrong with letting your family know anyway? No offence but if I had a son and he'd never (to my knowledge) had a girlfriend at the age of 18 I'd be starting to worry somewhat or assuming that he was gay. It's really not as bad as it sounds - just get it over with.
It really changed our relationship as I can freely tell my mum about drug experiences, sex, what i get upto etc. It even loosened her up as she asked me for some weed as she wanted to try it after being diagnosed with MS.
apparantly they wanted to see her:rolleyes:
She knows im not ashamed of her we her out and about tonite, didnt hold back showing affection;)
I'll try let rents know soon