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anal sex, hard work??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
hi, my girlfriend and i were
trying to have anal sex,
but i just couldnt keep my dick
inside her, maybe too much lubrication.?
it was a nice feeling tho , she did like it
too but i just kept slipping out??
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmmmmm *raises eyebrow*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My boyfriend and i have the same problem if he is too turned on. Because he wants to go at it like " a bat out of hell"( excuse the expression) it means that he keeps coming out. I get him to calm down (telling him that he's not gonna get any usually does the trick!) then go slow and it all works fine <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Ross:
    <STRONG>But personally, at our ages (15-18) we shouldn't really be thinking about anal sex!</STRONG>

    Why not?

    If you withdraw too far youll slip out, like in normal sex, so only have shorter thrusts and it should get better. Oh yeah, and slow down!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    OUCH! My boyfriend tried to have anal sex wiv me and it hurt soooo much! I've never let him do it since. It was so uncomfortable. Is there any way that I can let him do it to me so that it doesnt hurt. I've never felt so much pain in my life but he keeps on that he wants to do it again... <IMG alt="image" SRC="mad.gif" border="0">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit: I believe the reason Ross behind Ross's comments is that iirc, anal sex is not legal until both parties are at least 18 <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> Though, don't quote me on this - I'm probably incorrect <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">

    Jellygirl16: I guess the easiest and most painless way is lots of lubricant on your asshole and on your parners cock, also, during foreplay, get your partner to loosen up your asshole a little using a well lubricated finger. Member to always use a condom when practising anal sex, as it is all to easy to rip the anal tissue, cause bleeding, and thus allow virii and other infectious microbes access to your body.

    Also, tell your partner to go slow and take it easy. The first time you have anal sex, course it will hurt, as your asshole theoretically isn't designed to have a big cock thrusting in and out of it <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> - though please, do not construe that as my sayin anal sex is wrong - far from it in fact - if you enjoy it, and both you and your partner are of legal age, then go for it - all the better and more varied your sex life will be because of it.

    Anyway, enough of my incessant ramblings.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by jellygirl16:
    <STRONG>OUCH! My boyfriend tried to have anal sex wiv me and it hurt soooo much! I've never let him do it since. It was so uncomfortable. Is there any way that I can let him do it to me so that it doesnt hurt. I've never felt so much pain in my life but he keeps on that he wants to do it again... <IMG alt="image" SRC="mad.gif" border="0"></STRONG>

    I dont think anyone should put pressure on you to do something you dont want to do. Think carefully about your relationship with him!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Tom Edwards:
    <STRONG>Kermit: I believe the reason Ross behind Ross's comments is that iirc, anal sex is not legal until both parties are at least 18 <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> Though, don't quote me on this - I'm probably incorrect <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
    .</STRONG>

    Yep, although only changed last year. At the end of last parliamen t the government pushed through the sexual offences amendment bill, which lowered the homosexual age of consent down to 16 [yay! although not for me, far too young ;-)] and made straight and gay anal sex legal at 16a swell.... it did loads of others but those are the main points as it were!
    Originally posted by Tom Edwards:
    <STRONG>Jellygirl16: I guess the easiest and most painless way is lots of lubricant on your asshole and on your parners cock, also, during foreplay, get your partner to loosen up your asshole a little using a well lubricated finger. Member to always use a condom when practising anal sex, as it is all to easy to rip the anal tissue, cause bleeding, and thus allow virii and other infectious microbes access to your body.
    </STRONG>

    Definately use a condom! The main point is that you really need to trust your boyf, otherwise you tense and then it will DEFINATELY hurt - take it from me! If you do trust then a well lubed finger [or your tongue....;-)], then 2, then 3 if you can manage it - 3 fingers is about the average width of a cock. Then, when he enters, get him to rest just inside for a little while, and slowly push in. Any time it hurts, get him to stop, but, unles he really is hurting you DON'T withdraw, can make it more diffivult as you will have tensed up. Then as has been said before, slow ihn quick out can work, but ther is really no reason why quick in slow out can't be done, or quick both ways, or slow both ways -although it may be different with women! It shouldn't hurt, even on your first time, if you sort of follow the guidelines - they've worked for me!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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