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I really need some help...
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Basically I am a first year uni student who was messed up all my exams, and I got my days mixed up and missed an exam also...I really don't know what to do. I couldn't get myself motivated to do anything for them, and hence really didn't have a clue how to answer the questions.
At the start of the Semester I really worked hard and was so conscientious...but then towards the end I started skipping lectures because I was constantly too tired to go. I was even skipping tutorials too, because they scared the shit out of me, despite already having got help from one of my tutors to try and conquer my fear.
Will I be able to repeat my modules? I'm so scared and am dreading going back.
Sorry for the rant guys, I really don't do 'sharing my feelings' with people unless I REALLY have to, and thanks again in advance for any advice.
capo2
At the start of the Semester I really worked hard and was so conscientious...but then towards the end I started skipping lectures because I was constantly too tired to go. I was even skipping tutorials too, because they scared the shit out of me, despite already having got help from one of my tutors to try and conquer my fear.
Will I be able to repeat my modules? I'm so scared and am dreading going back.
Sorry for the rant guys, I really don't do 'sharing my feelings' with people unless I REALLY have to, and thanks again in advance for any advice.
capo2
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If you're positive you've failed the exams, along with the ones you've missed, I'd go and speak to your personal tutor. It's not that easy, and it takes effort to make the first step, but just explain how you've found the work hard, and adjusting to this new environment hard. To be honest, if you don't want to make the first move and talk to your tutor, s/he will most likely come to you if you've failed all of your exams to see what the problem is, anyway.
In most cases, you should be able to resit all of your exams if need be, but you may well have to pay this time around. Of course, this does depend on your University and the way in which they operate, though.
The important thing to remember is you're not the only one. I'm doing my exams now and will probably be in the same situation this time next week!
Good luck mate. :thumb:
Your options will vary course to course, uni to uni so we can't really help on the details. In a lot of places you can resit January modules, either in June or in August sometime so don't give up hope yet.
Everyone gets worn down towards to the end of the semester, people get tired and the novelty has worn off. The challenge now is can you pick up the pace again to make the rest of the year work.
Having had the fresher type life at the start of the year you now need to settle down into more of a routine, balancing academic work, paid work if you have a job and your social life/clubs/hobbies. A good way to do it is to do a rough block time table. Mine in the first year looked a bit like this for Monday/Tuesday:
Monday am: Lectures/Labs
Monday pm: Work on problem sheets/lab write ups
Monday Eve: Rev and then crash out/tidy up/wash up etc
Tuesday am: Lectures/Labs
Tuesday pm: Laundry and problem sheets
Tuesday early eve: Tutorial
Tuesday eve: Dinner with team mates then training, some more work if lab in on Wednesday, if not pub after training.
Right through to Friday/Saturday.
Friday night: Go out
Sat am: Sleep in ( unless competeing)
Sat lunch: brunch in canteen (*will* get arse out of bed in time for that)
Sat pm: Proper tidy up and sort out
If you can do that kind of thing it helps you plan how you use your time and motivate yourself to things at a certain time because you know you've got other stuff to do at other times.
capo2
Good luck for talking to your tutor.
K, so I emailed my lecturer for the module I've missed, and unsurprisingly again he hasn't replied. It's a tiny course and he knows who I am, which makes it even more annoying. As for the tutor, don't even go there, she's not a nice person, neither is the one for my history course. There's one tutor I would go to, but I've already been to him twice, I think a third time would be takin' the p*ss a bit would it not?
capo2
(But you knew that really)
Sometimes when I'm a few minutes late for a lecture and it's already started I panic and run (well walk very quickly) back home because I just... I dunno. It's like a fear in my head that I don't have control over, and I feel awful later like I'm failing and I'm stupid, but I dunno. Ugh.
I hate flu
I know what it's like to be petrified about tutorials and stuff. If, like me, it's the fear of being put on the spot, then speak to your lecturer. I failed some modules in my early years of Uni because I missed tutorials or fell asleep (a weird defence mechanism I have) in them. In my final year, I spoke to my lecturer about this and so he only asked me to speak out when I volunteered an answer.
Again, it's great to know that there are others who are quite frankly terrified about tutorials, and even lectures, too. 99% of all people I speak to at uni are fine with them, but they scare the crap out of me, it's just such an intimidating situation!
capo2
:yes: and I understand how it's embarrassing, because you think it's idiotic yourself, and can't imagine what other people think. I've got to the door of the lecture theatre before and then turned round, gone home and spent the next hour chastising myself for not going.
I think the worst bit about seminars for my subject (Maths) is sometimes they ask the students to do worked problems on the blackboard. And I have no clue... whereas it seems a fair few of the others do.
We'll get through this together!
Oh and as for parents, well my mum still thinks I should have gone to Cambridge (I got ABC at a levels but she doesn't realise that matters... and thinks if I worked harder I would have been fine :yeees:), but just sod them, it's your life, especially now, do what you want and what makes you happy. Easier said than done, I know but best of luck xxx
Get it touch with the tutor NOW, the sooner the better.
All my tutors and lecturers are very into the whole 'If you have any problems, and I mean ANY PROBLEMS AT ALL, don't hesitate to come and see me!' type of thing this semester, and they are really stressing it more than usual, which has calmed my head a bit too.
Did anyone have exams that went a bit pear-shaped too?
capo2
These things happen and if you've got the right attitude can usualy be dealt with.
Things are sounding pretty hopeful, good luck with this semester, and take your tutors advice, try and keep on top of work and go and talk to people as soon as anything niggles or you don't quite understand it completely rather than waiting for things to reach panic point again.
xx
capo2
Don't be too upset, at least you knew this was coming and you have already set about finding out how and when you can resit. You now have a goal to aim for and know where you are going wrong. If you really didn't care you wouldn't have found that information out already.
Your tutor said you should go and see him if you had any problems at all- why don't you pay them a visit and talk through some strategies for getting on with your work. I'm sure they will be more than willing to give you some advice.
Don't worry, you can do it. :yes:
Hmm where is the hug icon? Here's a hug as well.
capo2