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Shaving is a pain...can't see myself giving up though, not with my pale skin and dark hair! I even remove hairs from my arms.
Shaving is a pain...can't see myself giving up though, not with my pale skin and dark hair! I even remove hairs from my arms.
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Women are the way they are by evolution / divine creation (:p) and shouldn't be embarressed about it.
"Never, ever read beauty magasines - they will only make you feel ugly."
But then again, different strokes for different folks.
But why is hair on women a taboo? Men may groom their hair, but they're allowed to have it. There's a distinct difference between styling it and complete removal. Even girls with a bit of stubble under their arms feel self concious.
We've groomed and beautified ourselves yes, however that doesn't mean to say that women should be a slave to fashion - and a lot of women are. We are such an image concious society that a lot of women hold themselves up to unnattainable standards, they need to look perfect. But as there is no such thing as perfect, they may feel perpetually ugly.
My girlfriend who's a size 8 said she thought she was on the plump size yesterday. Another friend who when I had lunch with her, ate about 10 chips, thought she had a flabby tummy.
Sure, if it makes you feel happy then do it, but don't do it because it's what you feel you're expected to look like.
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I don't like hairy armpits though, not even on blokes. My ex shaved his and I suppose I got used to it.
What a knob! Why is it 'twisted'?!
I shave my legs and underarms and have a tidy up downstairs but not religiously because I have very fair hair anyway. Sometimes I'll go more than a week without shaving my legs but if nobody will see them, what does it matter? I have to say, after a while of not shaving my legs they begin to itch so I do it to stop myself clawing my skin off!
If someone doesn't want to shave then that is their personal choice and I certainly wouldn't call it twisted or unnatural.
On your other point, I think the main problem isn't the fact that women have a 'correct' media image. Men have that too. Men are constantly told that they need to be tall, dark, handsome, with broad shoulders, flat abs and be a good dresser with a 10" dick. Yet men don't seem to have as much of an issue about it, not in comparison to women anyway. I think the main problem is that with women, there is a constant message that this is the only way to be successful and happy, and have a fulfilling life, and that any other achievements are pointless unless you can look pretty while you're doing it. With men, it's more one of many things that you can aspire to. And as such, that is why a man that is successful and happy in other areas of his life will not be looked down on if his grooming isn't up to scratch.
Sorry, didn't mean it offensively. If it's your preference then that's fine, but there does seem to be a mood in british popular culture that 'hair = bad' when it simply doesn't. I don't see why some people find a bit of hair so offputting. The '12 year old girl' comment was just a bit of hyperbole, so don't take it too literally
I'm with stupid.... it seems less a specific point about ahir and more a point about societies 'expectations'. Everyone has different preferences, some like to have all their hairs gone, some like them trimmed, some like them natural, but for whatever reason people seem to think the less hair the sexier on women. But I don't see why anyone, man or woman, should hold themselves to other people's expectation. Those who think 'eughhh minggerrr' when they see a girl with armpit hair are those who can't see that beauty isn't just your appearance.
I suppose at the end of the day we live in a judgemental society where you have to dress the right way, look the right way just to be taken seriously. I am pleased that at least some people want to 'break the mold' and try to start a thinking that people don't have to look all the same, that there isn't one universal attractiveness.
I don't know actually, it never crossed my mind before... when you look at a guy do you go 'eww he's not nice cos he's got a beard / not got a beard'? I think you're just attracted to the people you're attracted to and you don't know why, there doesn't seem to be any general trends with me
Oh trust me i never fancy hairy blokes. Never ever ever.
no he wants to symphatize with them so he can get laid
(just kidding, I picked up you have a g/f).
I hate the fact, that many girls blame their duty to shave and get in order on men. "you want us like that, so we have to do it." blah, my ass. When was the last time a men told you to wear make-up? Heck, I remember back to a thread here on thesite that had an outnumbering amount of men that they prefer women without make-up (or with just veeeery little). Girls do it for themselves, and there is no way you can talk it out of them, because they'd feel ugly for themselves.
Well, tough shit, if you are self-conscious like that, live with it.
I agree with IWS' post (not the last one with the 12 year old, one before that).
there are a hundred things I want to find in a woman, before I check if the armpits are bald. Of course it's a plus, but there are many things that are way more important for me. I have hairy armpits too, and I know it's not particularly sexy, but I don't effing care (in summer I mostly trim them down to 1 cm tho). The removal of hair on some body parts just attests an "I'm taking care of me"-attitude. As dumb as it may sound, but you don't have to do anything to have hair, but you have to do something to get rid of them. there is always a limit tho, like removing the hair of your lower arms :eek2: . I can understand to remove hair where you sweat a large amout or smell in any other way (since the hair keep the odor), but... ah well....
I might be biased tho, because over here girls seem to do a lot more against body hair (without putting a value to that...)
Ok well that's cos girls are more shallow than men.
Loads of times during the last 2 years when I was going out with my ex! I'm more into the natural look, which my ex-bf accepted most of the time. But there were times when he bugged me to put on make-up, wear nice underwear, shave pretty much everywhere, etc, etc claiming that it would make me feel beautiful! I know what makes me feel beautiful. Shaving all over, putting on make-up, and wearing the underwear that he considered pretty and I considered painful - all because someone told me to (!) - doesn't make me feel beautiful! Makes me feel like a prize pig that he wants to show off! :impissed:
Sometimes I'll do the make-up, shaving etc because I want to, but that's the major difference. When I want to, its ok. When someone else complains and whines until I do because "it makes me feel beautiful", I don't feel beautiful, I feel pissed off and resentful. Not a good basis for any relationship.
Saying that, I do generally wear long trousers and avoid sleeveless tops when I haven't shaved, simply because I don't want people feeling revolted at a girl who hasn't shaved. Its kinda sad that this is what we've come to. Yay for "civilization" :crying:
Oh yeah, and as for hairy blokes, that's their choice. I think a bit of facial stubble looks quite cute on most guys. I saw a newspaper pic of some footballer a while ago, who'd shaved his airpits - looked so weird!
And as for girls shaving their legs, most guys I know have so much hair on their legs, they look like yetis! But I'm not complaining because its natural and normal and if they shaved their legs, I'd run a mile! Saying that, I know one guy who may have to shave his legs cos he's competing in some big swims, but thats for practical reasons, not superficial. Still may look slightly odd though if you didn't know his reasons behind it imho. Lol
Well, there are all kind of oddballs in this world. I wonder who you could tolerate such a person for 2 years. There is every kind of freak out there on the face of the planet, but picking one of them isn't the rule, so go out with someone considerate and sensible.
Well, what now? With hair we look like yetis, without you'll run a mile... You act like you couldn't give a toss, when in reality you do!
Sorry I phrased that badly. not all guys look like yetis. ok, only some of the guys I know do. but I don't mean the yetis comment as a bad thing. I actually couldn't give a toss. It would be a bit hypocritical if I got all antsy about hairy guys when I'm not a major shaver myself. I probably wouldn't run a mile if I met a guy who shaved his legs or armpits, but I would find it slightly odd unless it was for practical reasons e.g. sport. Hope this makes more sense now.
If you want to shave, then shave. If you dont want to, or CBA then dont. If a man pressurises you or makes you feel gross because you dont, then hes an idiot.
I know several women who dont shave for whatever reason, and I think good for them.
I personally bow to societal pressure and shave usually, but not so much these days as I can barely bend to reach my legs, let alone check how smooth my fanny is.
People dont tend to just view it in the same way that they would view someone who just decided to follow a different fashion. It seems to be more than that, as if women who dont shave are somehow unhygienic.
If a man were to grow his facial hair naturally without shaving or trimming it would look pretty disgusting.
If I grew a beard for a year or two, and then went out on the pull, how lucky do you think I'd get?