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can a high sex drive put men off?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
everytime i enter a relationship, they soon leave me.

i have a really high sex drive and pounce on them all the time. i like sex in public places and sometimes like to try stuff out.

could this be why men leave me so soon after getting with me?

i thought sex is what men wanted :confused:

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Not all men want you jumping on them all the time.
    Maybe they only come to you for sex as maybe you give it out too early and they get what they want and go?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I cant see it would put me off !!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've got a high sex drive but I certainly wouldn't want a girl jumping on me in public all the time.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think im kiind of similar to you....in the respect that i have a high sex drive, but not in the pouncing on guys in public places!
    saying that tho, i have a date soon, and im worried he wont wana kiss me (or at least kiss as often as i want to)!

    Have you tried spending more time in the bedroom at the start of a relationship, and less time in the great outdoors?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm definitely meeting the wrong girls... Hm.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Are you sure it's the sex? I have quite a high sex drive (luckily my partners is too) but I would have been quite intimidated if I was pounced on them all the time. When I started dating my partner, we had our fair share of sex, but we mixed it well with time together, socialising with friends, cinema etc.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote:
    I'm definitely meeting the wrong girls... Hm.
    :lol:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    some guys dont like to show signs of affection in public places....That snot me but some guys ar eliek that so that might be one reason.

    Some guys can be sefl concious and have ideas about rules and stuff of what you do in public, so sex in public could be an issue. I dont mind it myself, tho where people can see in the middle of a street might be an issue! Also if its a very cold day then I can't quarentee my best performance you know, but public fun can be very cool indeed.

    I guess it may depend what you say aswell, I mean if they say no sex do u make hints u might get it somewhere else? I guess they could be worreid about getting to involve dif they think you will cheat on them.

    If I didnt think u would cheat then a high sex drive wouldnt bother me. As long as the lady understands the guy doesn thav econtrol over his member and so he cant always be there on command so to speak. Can always please he rin other ways tho lol.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    StrubbleS wrote:
    I'm definitely meeting the wrong girls... Hm.
    ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A high sex drive is fine in a woman. However if your giving it up to easy then that is the problem. You might be finding the wrong men. The men you might be dateing are the one who only want one night stands.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it would only put men off when it starts to get a little desperate and attention seeking.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    go_away wrote:
    Are you sure it's the sex? I have quite a high sex drive (luckily my partners is too) but I would have been quite intimidated if I was pounced on them all the time. When I started dating my partner, we had our fair share of sex, but we mixed it well with time together, socialising with friends, cinema etc.

    Indeed :thumb:

    You probably need to focus on working on the other areas of your budding relationships, too, if they're all going straight down the tubes despite your good sex life. The majority of men (and women, in my experience) rank a compatible sex drive as a major tick in a major box but it really isn't the be-all and end-all... also, as hard as it is to imagine there are men out there with very low sex drives.

    I would HATE being pounced on all the time, and I think sex in public places is probably the kind of thing a lot of people would only be comfortable with once they knew their partner a bit better. Unless obviously it's one of those "I must have you NOW" moments, which can happen at anytime in a relationship but I always find are a bit crap - and vaguely nerve-wracking - unless they don't feel at all forced.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I love the word...puncing!!! Something animal to it...

    Sometimes it's hard going out with a girl who's got a high sex drive, especially if a guy hasn't experienced something like that before and he maybe doesn't have such a high sex drive. A guy might get scared off.
    And also he might realize that you want it all the time and he might be worried that he can't satisfy you which takes the said guy to a whole another level of insecurity...

    And also, high sex drive doesn't mean you can't control it. :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My boyfriend's a lot older than me - doubt that's the reason his sex drive is lower than mine, but thats the reason he gives (he goes..."I'm not 27 anymore!" lol bless him)

    We still have sex pretty much every day, but I'd like it more than once a day (we sometomes do it 2 or 3 times in a day, but not as regularly as I'd like!), so yeah...I think I've got too high a sex drive. It doesn't put my bf off though, we've been together for 4 months and I just try and lower my sex drive to match his, or once in a while he'll have a really sex-charged day, and so far it's worked out :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sounds like they might be put off because of a perception of insecurity to me.
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