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Why are blokes SO obssessed with....

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
lesbian women or bi women? I know women like the idea of havin 2 men but at least we don't obsess over it. My boyfriend keeps on at me about a 3some with another girl all the time. He never shuts up about it? So can anyone shed any light on this matter? <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not.........
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nor me, to be fair...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My girlfriend's bi <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">, but I'm really not bothered about the idea of a threesome. I'm going out with her, not any of her friends and that's the weay I want it to stay I think!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Guys just like the thought of 2 women. I know i think about it all the time. With my ex i was the one that wanted to 3some not him. Having another person in bed what ever sex they are is a turn on in its self. I've experimented with having 2 blokes at once and now i am quite obsessed with trying it with another female. We should all try everything once
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Doesnt bother me...
    Gets boring once the novelty wears off.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by s3xk1tt3n:
    <STRONG>Guys just like the thought of 2 women. I know i think about it all the time. With my ex i was the one that wanted to 3some not him. Having another person in bed what ever sex they are is a turn on in its self. I've experimented with having 2 blokes at once and now i am quite obsessed with trying it with another female. We should all try everything once</STRONG>

    Human nature. man was designed to spread his seed as far and wide as possible to keep his genetic make up alive.

    Women are designed to give their offspring the best chance by looking for a solitary male. preferably, the fittest, strongest, best provider.

    You see the problem, we've got different biological interests.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not obssessed with lesbian , Nor bi women. One girl is more then enough

    How old is your bf?, Maybe he just acting like a "Jack the lad" type. I bet if you agreed to it he would shit him self!

    Two woman must be Twice the Trouble !! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I wouldn't say obsessed.
    I'd bet that most are into the idea for the bragging assosiated with it, rather than actually wanting to do it.

    At the mo me and my g/f are talking about some group situations. 3's and 4's, and she seems pretty into it. My only real concern is that she only wants to because i want to. If she goes into this for anything other than selfish reasons it will al end in tears, imho.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know this is going off course a bit and probably deserves a new thread but i saw a program a while back and they did an experiment. they tested the physical sexual reaction of gay and straight men and lesbian and straight women to gay and straight eroticism. They found that straight guys didnt get aroused by gay porn but straight women did get aroused by gay/lesbian porn. i thought that was very interesting. It seems that all women are naturally physically bi, but men seem much more likely to only be either one or the other. so dont you think its a bit weird women complaining about men being turned on by lesbian eroticism when they are turned on by just the same, if not all psychologically, then physically.

    Any opinions???
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by mancmanomyst:
    <STRONG>so dont you think its a bit weird women complaining about men being turned on by lesbian eroticism when they are turned on by just the same, if not all psychologically, then physically.</STRONG>

    There is something to be said for the fact that some sexual reactions are purely physical, say as a man you can get hard for little or no reason, or maybe triggered by unusual stimuli. From talking to ex's and friends in the past it can happen to women to. The test results maybe flawed.

    That said I think its accepted that it's okay for women to be interested in other women maybe due to the lipstick lesbian steroetype, or men's desire to think all women are secretly bi. On the flipside it's generally looked down on if a man comments on another man or begins to experiement. And that kind of stigma can follow someone around in today's society.

    I think it's cool for anyone to try anything.. I've dabbled in some stuff and I'm definitely promoting the try eveything once.. as long as your in a stable relationship.. it will just disintigrate otherwise .. we'll it did for me <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    ah well.... next?? :P
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im not obsessed with 2 women at the same time, but im not saying if 2 girls offered to shag in front of me that i'd look away <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Irish Leprachaun:
    <STRONG>

    There is something to be said for the fact that some sexual reactions are purely physical, say as a man you can get hard for little or no reason, or maybe triggered by unusual stimuli. From talking to ex's and friends in the past it can happen to women to. The test results maybe flawed.

    That said I think its accepted that it's okay for women to be interested in other women maybe due to the lipstick lesbian steroetype, or men's desire to think all women are secretly bi. On the flipside it's generally looked down on if a man comments on another man or begins to experiement. And that kind of stigma can follow someone around in today's society.

    I think it's cool for anyone to try anything.. I've dabbled in some stuff and I'm definitely promoting the try eveything once.. as long as your in a stable relationship.. it will just disintigrate otherwise .. we'll it did for me <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    ah well.... next?? :P</STRONG>

    from an early age boys are put under pressure to perform to certain roles. its changing slowly but its still there. its not the same for girls since the days of Emily Pankhurst. They're free to be whatever they want. Boys from an early age are encouraged to play with aggressive toys and not to cry. its a subconscious parental thing, its no one's fault. we dont think about it. if ure male toddler grabs for a doll, u take it off him and give him an action man instead!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    we're not *all* bothered by it
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