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girlfriend's jealousy
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I'm guessing this is quite a common problem but I'm gonna ask for some advice on how to handle it anyway.
I hang around in a group of 4, it consists of my best friend, her boyfriend, his best friend and myself. We're also all workmates and so spend a lot of time together. We're all really close and the friendship is very important to me.
I used to have a casual relationship with the other boy in the group but it fizzled out and now we're just really close friends. The problem is that he has just got into a relationship with a girl who is against our friendship completely. She doesn't believe that we're just friends and she is trying her hardest to break up the friendship. I can see where she is coming from in that if it was the other way round I wouldn't be completely comfortable with the relationship we have but I think she is going a bit overboard.
She went off her head because he crashed on my couch the other night and fell out with him because he picked me and some friends up after a night out last week.
I know this girl because she is a regualr in the bar we all work in and she gets on my bus to uni every morning and until now we always chatted to each other but now suddenly she looks the opposite direction when I get on the bus and ignores me at work. I want to make the effort with her because despite the fact I do't like the attitude she is taking towards me I don't want it to be awkward when we bump into each other.
I guess more than anything I'm scared of losing this friendship, it means a lot to me and even now I feel lonely because I'm scared to call or text him incase she is there because she falls out with him for it, I guess I'm even a bit mad with him for letting her take control like this. I'm jsut waiting for the inevitable to happen and her to make him choose between us. I guess I jsut need some advice on how to handle the whole situation.
Thanx and sorry its such a long post!
I hang around in a group of 4, it consists of my best friend, her boyfriend, his best friend and myself. We're also all workmates and so spend a lot of time together. We're all really close and the friendship is very important to me.
I used to have a casual relationship with the other boy in the group but it fizzled out and now we're just really close friends. The problem is that he has just got into a relationship with a girl who is against our friendship completely. She doesn't believe that we're just friends and she is trying her hardest to break up the friendship. I can see where she is coming from in that if it was the other way round I wouldn't be completely comfortable with the relationship we have but I think she is going a bit overboard.
She went off her head because he crashed on my couch the other night and fell out with him because he picked me and some friends up after a night out last week.
I know this girl because she is a regualr in the bar we all work in and she gets on my bus to uni every morning and until now we always chatted to each other but now suddenly she looks the opposite direction when I get on the bus and ignores me at work. I want to make the effort with her because despite the fact I do't like the attitude she is taking towards me I don't want it to be awkward when we bump into each other.
I guess more than anything I'm scared of losing this friendship, it means a lot to me and even now I feel lonely because I'm scared to call or text him incase she is there because she falls out with him for it, I guess I'm even a bit mad with him for letting her take control like this. I'm jsut waiting for the inevitable to happen and her to make him choose between us. I guess I jsut need some advice on how to handle the whole situation.
Thanx and sorry its such a long post!
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We have spoken about it a lot! he tells me everything she says and stuff and I've told him how I feel about it all. I wanted to chat to her about it but he said that I can't because then she'll just get mad with him for telling me in the first place.
Its just a tough situation all round especially because we've got so many gigs and trips booked already, I mean we're going to paris together in a couple of weeks and shes so mad about it! but its been booked for months, its like she expects him to drop everything and run for her!!
I don't know whether he will feel able to do that though. There's a good chance he may have to choose between you.