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Anyone not enjoying uni???

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
edited March 27 in Work & Study
Hey, Just wondering is anyone not really enjoying uni? I'm not really i'm really homesick i miss my friends family an bf so much at the moment i come home for weekends as i only live an hour away which isnt too bad. But i just get really bored and i suppose thats when i start thinking of home, and i havent made any friends here either which is kind of worring as this is now my 3rd week. In a way i know i dont make a huge effort with friends as i have great friends at home so i can be lazy and i find it quiet hard to be myself with new people anyway as i'm quiet shy really. I'm just finding it hard at the moment i just wondered if i'm the only one feeling like this??? Does anyone else feel really lonley like me?:confused:
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i wouldnt worry too much, i was really homesick for at least my first two months and when i first started, i felt like everyone else was making friends apart from me. i only live an hour away from my hometown and i used to go home all the time at first because i hated it. just give it time, in the first few weeks everyone is making so much of effort, its not until a few months into the course when everythings settled down that people really make friends. i'm in my second year now, i rarely go home, i have a good group of friends who i now share a house with. i don't see any of the people i met in the first week or so, probably say hi when i see them around, but my good friends are the ones i met later.

    try not to worry too much, its still early days yet. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Right now I'm not.

    Have a lecture at 9am tomorrow, followed by 3 potential timeslots for tutorials. Been told to check the VLE for my tutorial group, except I can't get onto it. And the only person from the uni I have a contact number for, has their phone off.

    So I started off the day in a shit mood, and it has gotten so much worse. If I knew what I was fucking doing.. :banghead:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You're not the only one, our freshers only came up this weekend and I've spent all my time since then being nice to the ones that are miserable. You'll be surprised how many other people are in the same position. Try hunting them down and keeping each other company, you never know you may make some great friends.

    Do try not to go home every weekend, the more you do it the harder it will be to spend weekends at uni and meet people etc.

    Try joining some random clubs, frisbee is a good one, or an informal choir and trawl those til you find one you like.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I did in my first year. It's not unusual, just remember most people are feeling a bit unsure and lonely, you're not the only one.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The best way to make new friends is to go on the organised nights out, get pissed and talk to randomers! Thats what i've been doing. I only started yesterday and already ive got about 8 new numbers in my phone :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    icey wrote:
    The best way to make new friends is to go on the organised nights out, get pissed and talk to randomers! Thats what i've been doing. I only started yesterday and already ive got about 8 new numbers in my phone :thumb:
    glad its going well :) i knew you'd make friends really easily!
  • **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    You're not the only one, our freshers only came up this weekend and I've spent all my time since then being nice to the ones that are miserable. You'll be surprised how many other people are in the same position. Try hunting them down and keeping each other company, you never know you may make some great friends.

    Do try not to go home every weekend, the more you do it the harder it will be to spend weekends at uni and meet people etc.

    Try joining some random clubs, frisbee is a good one, or an informal choir and trawl those til you find one you like.

    :yes: I think it's easy to imagine that you're the only one, but as Scary says, it's really not uncommon - but that's not for a minute to say things won't get better. Have a look at this article on homesickness at uni

    Try and take small steps and give yourself time to adjust. On the other side of the coin there are quite a few people here in TheSite community who have left uni recently and are finding that re-adjustment back to their friends 'at home' equally as tough.

    I hope things start to look up for you soon.
    Take care ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I went through exactly the same thing when I first started uni. After a few weeks I ended up leaving (biggest mistake of my life)

    Having said that i quickly realised what I lost and called in favours and twisted arms to get back to uni asap.

    This was without doubt the best decission I ever made. Im now finished uni, had the best time and meet some great mates that I will be mates with for life.

    It just takes time to settle in, dont give up, as Im sure you will regret it.

    :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    give it time. try not to allow yourself to get bored - get yourself involved in things and you'll meet new people. how do you get on with the people you live with?

    in my 1st and 2nd years at uni i lived in the same house and i was a bit bored - i lived with 3 other people. i now live with 13 other people and it's ace, i love it. there's always something going on.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If there are any clubs and such to attend, do it! My biggest regret so far is not having joined the volleyball last year instead of starting now. I absolutely love it and am getting to know some people plus having tons of fun at practices. :D

    Not everybody makes friend real easily, I'm like that myself, but you've got to keep at it. I've been really bad with going out and socialising but I've gotten to know people through assignments and such.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    following on from my 'reasons' thread i guess one function of this site is to offer support and advice. try getting a supermarket job, then if you don't like students there are good ppl working in those places. try to mix at uni. you're probably spending too much time timewasting. if you don't make friends soon, you'll start sweating the small stuff and loose sight of the plans
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