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bringing friends on dates
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Ok, met a cute girl at a party recently, got her number, texted a bit, asked her for a drink, so it's all good, we're meeting up next Monday.
But... she's probably going to bring some friends along. So I'm wondering whether I should be put off by this. I understand that some girls like to bring a friend on first dates for safety, comfort etc in which case no prob (although we share some friends, so it's not like she needs to worry about me being an axe-murderer), but might it also be a tactic because she's not really interested? Partly concerned also because I'm generally better in one-to-one situations than in a group of people if I don't know them that well. What do you think?
(Obviously the answer is wait and see how the date goes, and of course nobody here can possibly know what her reasons are, but just thought I'd check out people's opinions on friends tagging along...)
But... she's probably going to bring some friends along. So I'm wondering whether I should be put off by this. I understand that some girls like to bring a friend on first dates for safety, comfort etc in which case no prob (although we share some friends, so it's not like she needs to worry about me being an axe-murderer), but might it also be a tactic because she's not really interested? Partly concerned also because I'm generally better in one-to-one situations than in a group of people if I don't know them that well. What do you think?
(Obviously the answer is wait and see how the date goes, and of course nobody here can possibly know what her reasons are, but just thought I'd check out people's opinions on friends tagging along...)
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It's also possible she doesn't see it as a traditional date, but who knows.
I'd go along anyway, I don't think its that odd if you've just got her number.
It was quite funny though as I actually got on better with her mate and ended up speaking to her more! Funny enough I didnt see the other one again!
Like Kermit says its probably just insurence. Just go along and see how it goes mate!
It sounds as if maybe she's still feeling a little shy and nervous about the prospect of a one-on-one date with you, or isn't sure if she likes you "in that way" yet and doesn't want to put herself in any awkward situations. She knows you're not an axe-murderer (or at least hopes not) but that doesn't stop those wary, anxious feelings. So maybe spending a little more time together socially wouldn't be a bad thing; I know you say you feel you'd be better off one on one but obviously she doesn't feel the same at the moment. Just go, see what happens and take the opportunity to have a chat and whatnot... then maybe she'll be up for a "proper" date the next time.
There is nothing to be afraid for, just rather let her have your attention. Just never be rude to her friend, or make jokes on her expense. You should try to avoid prolonged convo with her friend tho, where she can't participate.
Really nothing to worry about.