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i feel like a failure because i cant cum from sex
ive never cum by a boyfriend doing it. Only by myself and its really difficult
i wish i could cum for my boyfriend, i feel like im letting him down, like i am failing him.
it doesnt matter to me as long as i am pleasing him but i know he wants me to cum but i just cant. even when he does it exactly as i would do it it wont work. it just doesnt feel good and i dont understand
any tips?
ive never cum by a boyfriend doing it. Only by myself and its really difficult
i wish i could cum for my boyfriend, i feel like im letting him down, like i am failing him.
it doesnt matter to me as long as i am pleasing him but i know he wants me to cum but i just cant. even when he does it exactly as i would do it it wont work. it just doesnt feel good and i dont understand
any tips?
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That's female ejaculation, female cum isn't like that.
And as for not coming during sex, if you can come by yourself then i don't see why there is a problem.
Do you not (sorry to be graphic) rub your clit like you would when masturbating whilst having sex with your boyfriend?
Not many can come from vaginal sex alone.
Keep trying, don't think there is something wrong with you or you will never get there !! One day it'l happen keep experimenting.
Have you tried like a vibrator or anything? Might make it a little more easier.
Scarlet, how do you feel when you masturbate? I was reading in an article that about 60% of the women in a test did not think they achieved orgasm, but when they were wired up to a monitor it was shown that they did show all the signs of an orgasm. The problem was that they expected there to be this huge gushing shudder, like they see in the movies, when the reality is much more serene. If you feel like it gets nice and then your body relaxes then you may well have achieved orgasm, you just don't realise it, because you expect it to be more.
Not very many women have the huge screaming fits of an orgasm that you see in films. For many its just a small peak and then a feeling of relaxation.
Really? i couldn't imagine being able to not know you had one. Perhaps i am just one of the lucky ones. *shrugs*
feel actually quite upset with disappointment right now!
:yes: Kermit's right - porn is generally not a realistic reflection of what most people's sexual experiences are like. It sounds like you might benefit from reading our article on real life sex But I wouldn't say orgasms are insignificant - they can just vary quite dramatically each time for a number of reasons including sexual arousal, stress, whether you're with a partner or alone, whether you're in a rush etc etc.
ok positive thinking i WILL get my orgasm!
*hugs* to all those who've not yet reached the golden plateau!
i wanted the earth to move, i wanted to faint with pleasure, i wanted to be scraped off the ceiling!
( ha mind you reading that back maybe my expectations ARE too high!)
Shame really :crying:
Yes but at least you CAN do it yourself! I think I've accepted a life without orgasms already.
It sounds like a few of you have problems reaching orgasm, even when masturbating, which must be frustrating. The Net Doctor website has a comprehensive article on masturbation which includes a section: What's the best way for a woman to have an orgasm (just scroll down the page a bit) - which you may find helpful.
Also, please be reassured that you are far from being alone in this situation. Many young women worry about not being able to reach orgasm - but that's not to say for a second that they never will. Have a look at these Q&As from the same website:
I can't come
Why can't I orgasm
Hope this helps
That wasn't a too nice image after having my dinner
I wish when i read things i don't get little mental images they aren't the best of things at times, anyone else the same?
thought maybe this would be useful has lots of information and the female orgasm and what we need to achieve it!!! all guys n gals out there worrying get onto this site!!! takes a while to load so give it a chance:thumb: