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Fear of sex.
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I have been married for over 2 years now and still have not had sex with my husband.<P class="body">I love him very much but i am scared of pain and think it will hurt too much. I am very tight but the doctor says i am normal down there. <P class="body">Recently i have started to relax and insert my finger in but it has a tight fitting. It hurts so a penis is likely to cause intense pain.<P class="body">My husbie has given up - says when i'm ready it will happen. I don't think it ever will.<P class="body">Have you got any tips. How can i relax?<P class="body">I have heard about some drug (rape drug) been used in some clubs. Is it worth me getting something like this?<P class="body">Please help. I feel us drifting apart now.<P class="body">
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I am currently learning to insert objects into my vagina to see how comfortable I am with it. I am getting used to it but they are smaller than his penis.
I am still scared but will try tommorow.
I love him and our relationship is brill (except for the lack of sex)!!.
too-tight
Bad Boy Pete
If this is a serious posting... given other comments, then my advice would be to seek help from your partner and someone professional.
I was in a relationship similar to this but we weren't married and it only lasted 6 months but all the same, enough pain was dealt and the problems were there :-(
I wonder if there is something else that is causing this problem for you? Your obviously not able to relax enough, perhaps your worried and scared... which I can understand but you must face whatever the problem is and as soon as you feel you can, which I know is easy to say.
Otherwise I wonder if your going to run into more problems with your husband and yourself... perhaps showing appreciation/love another way to your husband would help. He'll help all he can if he knows you love him.
Good luck,
Ian.
Bad Boy Pete
Great bit of advice. Sympathetic and intelligent.
Not
Men are taught to apologise for their weaknesses, women for their strengths
By the way Pete, this is a genuine problem, and i am not 15, iam 26 years old.
too-tight
T2k:
Just a little suggestion...
I don't wanna go quoting the rules of the boards again - it's boring as hell - but I think I'm right in saying no one wants to read stupid stuff like your above comment.
If I'm wrong, I'm sure people will point it out to me.
Dominic
I had a human sexuality class in college and learned a little about this condition. Ladies who had this problem where giving a set of "man toys" (would it be proper to use the other word?) by a gynocologist. They ranged in size from about a finger to a little bigger than the average male. They were told to go from the smallest to biggest over a certain period of time...maybe 2 weeks. Half-way through the 2 weeks, the male is supposed to come in and watch....to get the female more compfortable with him around. Then when she can get the largest one to "fit", the male is supposed to insert it for her. Then finally the moment of pure joy.
Sorry for the long post. I truly hope this helps or at least gets you closer to a solution. This is something that can bring you two closer than anything else in this world.
Niner
[This message has been edited by Niner (edited 18-07-2000).]