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Just try to end all contact for a while as you will need it to be able to sort your head out.
It's gonna take a while but you will eventually stop hurting. *hugs*
i'm sorry this has happened to you. it hurts like hell at the time; but with time you can learn to let go and move on... *hugs*
the tears will stop eventually.
but just remember ...... you need to look after yourself now.
That's normal, mate, but just remember that you're not alone, you're not the only one its ever happened to, and there are lots of people who are there to help you get over it.
Let yourself cry, you've got to. It was special to you, and you've got to mourn your loss. Don't think you have to be the big man and grin and bear it. It's OK to be thoroughly depressed.
and she was thinking of your feelings when she cheated huh?
You are a nice guy shyboy but it's time you got tough with her, i know it hurts but you must.
Agreed.
Regardless of whether she'll pay you back, why the fuck should she have a holiday on your money? If anyone needs it it's you. She'd probably only take that bloke with her anyway and that would seriously be bang out of order.
It's time you took her off that pedestal and saw her for what she is. A totally heartless slag.
Me as well.
And Kermit's right - let yourself cry.
*aimed at shyboy*
come on the fuck man. grow some balls. your ex is a bitch. let her stay at home while your with a mate enjoying yourself. if the holidays booked under your name you just need to give her the exact cost she paid you and your flying. I wouldnt give her the holiday. let them fucks enjoy themselves when your stuck at home. fuck that man. your a legend on these boards so act like one
What happens if it was more than that? (Like there was really something going on between them) Or she'd done this before and you'd already forgiven her?
:yes:
Doesn't mean it's always true though. Do you know every single woman in the world or something? Just because one woman fucked you over, doesn't mean another will do exactly the same.
I never said that.
And ShyBoy, sorry as fuck to hear about what happened man. If anyone has any more advice, let's get back to that.
If you find yourself getting jealous of this guy, don't. She will more than likely cheat on him too. Now you know what she's like you're better off rid.
:yes: Try to cut off contact as well.
I'm crap at advice like this but the best thing to do mate is let it go, you have nowt to be ashamed of, shes the cheating one and she deserve no more than to rot in hell (or local equivalent).
Don't let her minuplate you, it'll be hard, but get your head down and work through it and stuff would come good in the end.
So not feeling too bad, things are all sorted out, her mum was crying heh because she
Also, I noticed today that being on a motorbike does get you looks from girls. Whether it's because they think I'm a wally or otherwise, I don't care, I interpret it as appreciation. So feeling tonnes better
Yesterday I was reading this thread and bawling my eyes out, literally. I said to her that the person I loved had died
Indeed, cos bikers are teh sex :yes:
I'm glad you can still be civil to her, but honestly, you need to avoid all contact with her, at least for a few weeks. Don't dissect what went wrong and why, just say "yeah, it went wrong", have a cry and then go and get lashed with your mates. Plenty more fish in the sea, etc etc.
In time maybes you can be friends, but I'd be starting with the idea that you can't be. I've seen too many of my friends try to remain mates with their exes, and all it does is break their heart time and time again, especially when they get drunk and have one for the road.
Not fussed about the pubs. I go because I love the road, and the scenery is breathtaking if you time it right - sunrise at the border is spectacular, all the mist on the hills... it's been too long. Last trip was January 2005 in my little 205 - wanted to take the Scooby, but knew I'd kill myself.
I can't wait!