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meeting dads girlfriend
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I'm meeting my dads girlfriend this weekend. It's going to be awkward for me because they don't know that i know they're trying to buy a house together when dad told us he wouldn't leave for another 2 years. So it'll be awkward for me and i won't know what to do or say. I know people just say oh be yourself but has anyone got any advice on how to make things less weird? I tend to be quiet new people and it makes me come across as bitchy sometimes.
I'm also meeting mums boyfriend the weekend after but i'm not too fussed about him because my mums open with me about him. Unlike dad who kept his girlfriend a secret from us for months and now is keeping the moving part secret. And knowing dad it'll be till a few weeks before he moves out. I'm just quite bitter about it. Any words of wisdom to try and ease the awkwardness of the whole thing? It's difficult for me to be fake happy and nice when i'm not too pleased about a situation. And talking to my dad isn't a possibility cause he'll give my mum grief for telling me.
I'm also meeting mums boyfriend the weekend after but i'm not too fussed about him because my mums open with me about him. Unlike dad who kept his girlfriend a secret from us for months and now is keeping the moving part secret. And knowing dad it'll be till a few weeks before he moves out. I'm just quite bitter about it. Any words of wisdom to try and ease the awkwardness of the whole thing? It's difficult for me to be fake happy and nice when i'm not too pleased about a situation. And talking to my dad isn't a possibility cause he'll give my mum grief for telling me.
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one thing though, you can't have expected your dad to have stayed in the marital home with his ex (or nearly?) wife for 2 years. he may well have said he would but the circumstances have obviously changed for your dad.
why are you bitter about it? your dad wasn't really obliged to tell you he had a new girlfriend .
Kind of an uncomfortable situation to be in but really if I were you I'd try and imagine what it's like for her and your dad. Like lucifer devil said, she's probably as nervous as you, surely it can't be easy for her to be "the other woman" (kind of) and I bet she feels guilty for taking your dad away if they're going to buy a house together. Try not to judge her before you know her or build up an image of how you expect her to be. I'm sorry I can't say much more than that as I don't know the exact situation, just try to relax and don't stress out about it.
don't have any misconceptions of her before you meet her, go in openminded otherwise you'll probably not like her even before you've met her. remember she's done nothing wrong (not that anyone else has).
Well it does get awkward in the house sometimes. We think she used dads phone to send a sarcastic text pretending to be him to mum while he was with her (because it wasnt how he writes his texts). I'm trying to go in open minded but i can't help but be a bit bitter knowing that they think they're going behind my back in a way.
your dad maybe kept it quiet for a while as he wanted to wait to see how things went.
Which do you mind the most- the secrets or that he's going to move out? I know I would rather just be kept in the picture myself. So, when he answers, smile and say "thank you for telling me. It really helps that I know where I stand and what's going on" (without having a fit about whatever his answer is of course).
just my tuppence...
i don't mind him moving out - its the lying i don't like. I would be nice if he actually finished the dining room first mind....
As for the meeting itself, others have said it: Don't judge anyone before you meet them.