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Personally, I wouldn't be that pissed if you kept changing the subject. It's nice to talk about different things. And it does get boring talking about the same thing for hours.
I don't wanna be the 'nice guy' who just has to hear about her boyfriend being an arsehole and how more men could be like me (total patronisation if you ask me)
From reading most of your posts, Indeed I have.
I get the idea that you practice this in real life but have you perfected it?
2. Do we have to be loaded for you to notice them? no!
3. What should we talk about if we wanna get to know you? anything in moderation! ask how we are, ask how day has been etc
4. Do you care about minor problems such as limps, scars and such? nope
5. Is it bad to swear in your presence? (I think I've got tourettes cause I cant say a sentence without swearing, I was talking to a teacher and said the F word twice and didn't realise ) again, swearing in moderation isnt bad - but if you were to swear constantly in eevery sentence then yeah, i might get a bit annoyed
I get the idea thats where the friendship trap is....
1. No
2. No - but then i'm not really gonna be drawn to a bloke wearing a sack and a bit of string either.
3. General shit. As long as it's not to do with babies, marriage or love it's all good.
4. No. Not sure i could get with quasimodo though.
5. Nay. Swearing is good.
LOL
I reckon you can get away with asking her about her love life (though sex life is probably a better subject) just don't dwell on it too much and treat it in a light-hearted way rather than having a really serious discussion about it.
I see what you mean, but only ask her about her sex life if you know her well enough however. Heres a good question: If a girl says to you "oh my boyfriends treating me badly" you should give an hour long speech on how super she is and how hes just a prick. what should you do?
And how likely is a woman to talk to someone (other than her partner) about her sex life? I certainly wouldn't...
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
That is what girl friends say to other girls. If a bloke gave me a speech like that i'd cringe.
T.B.H, I wouldn't ask because she will either clock you one for your rudeness or just flat out ignore you so you dont get a friend or a potential partner.
Im just respectful and i cringe as i say this.... nice....
but I get the feeling that thats not enough cause the age old saying of "nice guys finish last"
Very true. I'd probably clock you for asking me such questions.:p
Relax, it was only an example but thats what I don't wanna be...
and I'd let you...
it wouldnt get you anywhere. if anything you get the rep of a pervert
I was trying to stop you making the biggest mistake of your life
And nice guys don't finish last. Boring ones do.
J.F.T.R, I would never give a girl an hour speech on how super she is because she will either be freaked out or assume your gay and her boyfriend will beat the shit out of you....
Depending on the guy it can be sweet. Other times not.
You can't really say that a certain group won't get the girl. Different for everyone.
It;s not possible to define a 'boring' guy though. What I may find interesting, some girls may find boring and vice versa.
is it bad for a guy to be nice? in peoples opinion because there are enough arseholes in the world
but women always pick the bloke who mistreats them and they just think "oh I can tame him" all the while they just say "why cant I find a nice guy?"
trouble is, most women dont want nice guys.
but im thinking what about considerate guys?
When you have the capability to read the mind of every woman you can say that.
If your too nice, it can be boring. Not always but sometimes.
And women don't always pick a bloke that mistreats them.
they do everything they say there gonna do, they bend over backwards to make girls happy even go right out of there way.
thing is they always do it then they become predictable and boring
am I right?
I can't read minds but I know the saying "majority rules"
Most of the time they will just bin the nice guy and pick the other guy.
I agree with all of that :yes:
I would usually go for a good 'all rounder' e.g. a guy who is sweet and caring but has a naughty side. The main things that would put me off someone are things you didnt even mention like lack of direction/motivation.
For me its the boring guys that finish last not the 'nice' ones, someone can be nice and sweet in general but still have an adventurous fun side.
It totally depends, if the 'nice' guy is boring and doesnt make me enjoy spending time with him (if i dont have fun with him) then hell yeah he'd be binned, I'm pretty sure that is also true of men 'binning' women too.
how can you keep a girl entertained and interested?
ive got some ideas but some more wouldnt hurt
I got another question: would a guys interest (Ill use me as an example)
affect his chances with a girl? ie reading manga, watching violent films watching anime.
If you laughed like a maniac during it then yes, it'd put me off.