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How long before you respect her?
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Question mainly for the boys but I guess it counts for girls too - if it should be in relationships I'm sorry - feel free to move it.
I met a guy through a friend and bumped into him later at a party, where we got on really really well - into the same things, easy conversation..... We exchanged numbers and later the next week I went to his for a quiet night in watching movies etc. One thing led to another and I ended up sleeping with him, which is not my usual way of doing things, it's usually at least a month before I'll give it up. He then went on holiday for 3 weeks, during which I didn't hear from him at all. He's been back a few days and hasn't attempted to contact me again, despite bumping into each other a couple of times around town (very uncomfortable quick conversations).
I've taken this to mean he's not interested in anything more, and am feeling pretty cheap and upset. Just wanted to know your opinions - if a girl sleeps with you that early on, could you imagine her as a girlfriend? Or is she just a convenient screw?
I met a guy through a friend and bumped into him later at a party, where we got on really really well - into the same things, easy conversation..... We exchanged numbers and later the next week I went to his for a quiet night in watching movies etc. One thing led to another and I ended up sleeping with him, which is not my usual way of doing things, it's usually at least a month before I'll give it up. He then went on holiday for 3 weeks, during which I didn't hear from him at all. He's been back a few days and hasn't attempted to contact me again, despite bumping into each other a couple of times around town (very uncomfortable quick conversations).
I've taken this to mean he's not interested in anything more, and am feeling pretty cheap and upset. Just wanted to know your opinions - if a girl sleeps with you that early on, could you imagine her as a girlfriend? Or is she just a convenient screw?
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All depends on the girl. If she wanted it, then it wouldn't be a problem. If she was insecure and uncomfortable with it, then it would most likely put me off.
should have taken precautions mate
I think it all depends on the person/s involued. From what you put posted it sound to me (speaking for a guy point of view) that he might have just been after the sex and nothing else. I could be completely wrong and he might not know where he stands. Have you tried getting in contact with him or talking about it? How do you feel about him (would you want it to go any further)?
Sorry that might not have been very helpfull.
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Don't beat yourself up though, know how you feel, pretty sure we've all made some mistakes like this to be fair. Just got to try and get past it and put it down to shit happens.
No there isn't a time limit, we slept together early on and are still together. You either have a connection or don't. He could well be embarrassed by it as much as you are, I know I got embarrassed afterwards.
If the guy is really worth it they will wait for however long you want them to. be that a week or a year, if they break up with you down to the lack of sex then they are not really worth it anyway!
What a load of drivel.
Having unbalaned sex lives is a key issue that causes relationship breakdowns, if you want it and you're not getting it it can and does cause problems.
It doesn't make the person shallow for getting frustrated at not getting laid.
I'm frustrated and not getting laid, and if i dont get laid before my period, I'm gonna be a very pissy girl. Stupid boyfriend
Maybe but some people just want a sexual relationship, if they make that clear and don't go about it in a cuntish deceitful way then it's all good in the hood
For plenty of people it would just be a mismatch - nothing to do with shallowness.
Yep.