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I can't help but feel like I'm nothing more than a roommate
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its what I feel like now. A roommate. A roommate with sex. I've tried to talk, say how I feel and he gets defensive. He doesn't deny it and he doesn't really say anything against it, just gets mad that I think that. I dont know what else to do. I love him. He won't tell me that anymore even.
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Hey Manda. Don't really know the situation but I seem to remember you posting recently about not being engaged anymore? That you wanted to get your head together first?
He's probably a bit confused and worried about getting hurt. As I said I don't know either of you or the situation but from the little I know I'd say you just need to give him some time so he knows for sure that the step down from fiance to dating isn't a sign of you going off him.
I'm aware you've probably said this to him a number of times but sometimes lads just take a little while on the up take because we're stoopid
Umm...personally I would disagree with this. If a girl pulled that kind of teen dramatics on me then I'd let her walk!
Yeah, I agree. I think that kind of "threat" usually backfires, and how.
You need to talk to him, hon. As Jon said, he's probably on the defensive at the moment and has set up a little battlement around his heart. You feel insecure, he feels insecure, for reasons that are the same and yet different. Try and communicate this without pointing the finger, he might be finding it hard to articulate how he feels and to understand what exactly your relationship is at the moment. Maybe you need to redefine your feelings for him, or redefine them together. Either way, I'm sure you won't feel better until you talk to him. I hope you get sorted.
I am sorry your feeling so bad. I don't know what to say, I mean I am not engaged and never have been so I cant speak from experience, only feelings. I suggest you talk to him, tell him how you feel. If he doesn't even talk to you then, maybe you should end it.
I hope your feeling better soon. I am on msn if you want to talk *hugs*
I'd say keep trying to talk, hopefully he'll listern. If not we're all here for you. *HUGS*
ANwyas, thanks again It means alot
Whatever you decide to do, good luck! Hope he comes round...