If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
Options
Is it better to have loved and lost...
BillieTheBot
Posts: 8,721 Bot
...or never to have loved at all?
Beep boop. I'm a bot.
0
Comments
I think the pleasure of love is greater than the loss of it, even though it may not feel that way at the time it disappears.
Another way I like to look at it is that love has influenced and inspired so many people (and continues to do so). If they'd retreated from love for fear of getting hurt then we'd be missing a lot of the inspirational music, art, literature etc that we take for granted.
That's quite a good way of looking at it i suppose. You might have just got me having second thoughts on my opinion now
Although admitedly the last month has been very low but fuck it ... only way is up and all that :thumb:
6months ago i might have said different but was very upset and hurt at the time so. But we live we learn. I'd hate to just life out life thinking there isn't anything better out there. what would the point of living be.
Love can bring you a lot of happiness, but it can also break you like nothing else.
And the way I see it, when a love is lost, then even good memories don't feel as good anymore and the pain is always greatest than the good moments.
If there was no love, im not sure i could be bothered to live.
Memories that can make you insecure and fucked you so bad you can never trust anyone at 100% which will affect future love.
Some people can't live with love, but when you have loved and lost, love isn't there anymore is it?
And if it comes back, well, see first sentence.
Not everyone is like that though.
I would rather have loved and lost. I would rather experience this than be too scared of getting into a relationship because it may end and therefore I may get hurt or hurt someone else. It's being a bit wussy. I would rather experience and embrace love rather than back away from it time and time again out of fear or whatever.
Yep I agree on that, everyone is different and deal with lost differently.
I think it is more likely than people saying it is best to have never loved at all are people that have been in love already and probably lost it.
Loved and lost teach you a lot tho.
ps Sorry bitter bitch right here!!!
Yes there is. There's no such thing as love at first sight. You can get an immense crush at first sight but not love. You have to allow yourself to love someone. It takes time. Some people don't let themselves fall in love because they're afraid it might hurt them. And 95% of the time it does but who gives a fuck? At least you experienced it and learned from it.
Good point, I probably think otherwise because it never afraid me so I always jump right in there.
So true, at the end any experience is still good, even if it end up badely.
Life is a bitch and a sure way to learn that is to have loved and lost.
All life is a big lesson. Sometimes you get fucked over, but you live, you learn.
yeah,i used to think that it is better to have loved and lost...but the prospect of getting hurt again just scares the crap out of me!but then again, that's the kind of thing that helps you to grow a little more and helps you to become a better person hey? you live, you learn!
Well cos most people I know say loved and lost and I think otherwise, so wanted to see what everyone in there was thinking about it.
I have loved and lost, I even have loved and lost things I never really had and well, I had already lived enough crap before to know life sucks, I didn't needed a reminder and I really really hate wasting time.
I know people say live and learn, but I haven't learn anything I didn't know already.
Also I would say I am glad my last "loved and lost" happend as it is the reason that brang me in this country where I met my gf who show me everyday that love can even go behind the limits I knew, which were already quite extreme.
I think that loved and lost is probably better, but i wont feel like that in about a week. I met a guy recently and were now going out, and im falling in love with him, you cant stop it, it just happens. I lost my virginity to him yesterday, im crazy about him. But he is moving to wales for 6 months on saturday because he is doing a course in training to teach outdoor extreme sports. So next week i will change my mind!