Cyber perv paradise or safe sexual outlet

Former Member

Just wondering what people think about people taking part in cyber sex.

as far as I can tell theres two sides to this debate on the one hand you have the perv argument saying it's just between sad people with no life and on the other you have the counterpoint that it's a bit of fun and mainly safe

Lets see what you all think

Former Member

Although I've never done it, I think Cyber is okay as its safe - free from STD's and is fun.
TheShyGirlBeth xxx

Former Member

meh, stringless mental stimulation in order to give urself an orgasm. whoopee fucking doohdah. if the guy at the other end if some sick fuck, who cares? what u dont know can't harm u (in this case).

Former Member

I wouldnt do it (cept with my gf) but I dont see whats wrong with it. Just a bit of fun, no different to reading a sex story on the net.

Former Member

Originally posted by Turtle:
<STRONG>meh, stringless mental stimulation in order to give urself an orgasm. whoopee fucking doohdah. if the guy at the other end if some sick fuck, who cares? what u dont know can't harm u (in this case).</STRONG>

Was one pissed whilst writing this?? I still cant work out if you think it is a good thing or a bad thing.. or are you sitting on the fence for the first and only time?? <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

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Former Member

Lol just sounds like turtle to me....

Girl-From-Mars

Originally posted by Snoop:
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Was one pissed whilst writing this?? I still cant work out if you think it is a good thing or a bad thing.. or are you sitting on the fence for the first and only time?? <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

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looks like he's saying he doesnt have a problem with it to me <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

Former Member

*no comment*

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Former Member

I mainly think it is a bit of a home for sad pervs but it is safe so long as you don't give out your address or phonenumber or anything.

W_G

Former Member

Originally posted by TheShyGirlBeth:
<STRONG>Although I've never done it, I think Cyber is okay as its safe - free from STD's and is fun.
TheShyGirlBeth xxx</STRONG>

I've heard you can get some nasty viruses is you do it on MSN... <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">

Former Member

I've not done Cyber in around 10 years, so I don't know what it is like now.

One guy (who took my refusal to deny that I was female as proof that I was) really got me off on foreplay.

Another time I got chatting to a lady, and we got on, we started to take it cyber, but
I was clueless as to what yo do, so I pushed for physical, she admitted that she was a he IRL, (somewhat releived) I said it wasn't a problem, so I went and found him and we went back to my place, and nothing happened <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> I was still sorting my head out, and was far too nervous to let him near me. We had a pleasant evening though.

We met in a public place, and travelled (in this case walked) in public, so there was plenty of time for either of us to drop out if we didn't trust the other before we were in private. I was able to take care of myself, I don't know what other precautions he took.

It's an okay thing, it lets you lose your inhibitions and try out ideas without worrying "what will people think of me". It's safe. Just rememberer it need bear no relation to real life, so don't allow on-line trust to become real-life trust without real-life support.

"Cyber sex - Where the men are men, where the women are men, where the girls are men, and where the boys are FBI agents"

Former Member

id never meet up with someone off the net just like that. youd never know what they could try. i suppose girls would be more vunerable too.
if you found out that your girl/boyfriend was havin cyber sex would you be upset??its kinda like phone sex, is that, in a way, cheating??!

Former Member

Nice to see the responces you all have,

just moving away form the cyber issue for one moment I have a couple of things to say about meeting people off the net

Firstly I dont think that it's a bad idea but it should be treted with respect, I actually met my curretn girlfriend or 20 months online, we were chatting for a while and realised we actually went to the same high school, (me being a couple of years older then her) we chatted for a few months and one day decided we should meet up, she brought a mate with her and I turned up and we got on well, (we were both abit nervous but hey who wouldent be)

The point of all this is there is danger ad risk in everything we do be it meeting people in a nightclub on a bus or online, you just have to know how to treat these risked, but always remember nothing ventured nothing gained,(as long as your careful)

Former Member

Originally posted by asho:
<STRONG>id never meet up with someone off the net just like that. youd never know what they could try.</STRONG>

I did mention some safeguards, and while I would usually recommend more (as I have in other messages) I consider that adequate precautions were made.

<STRONG> i suppose girls would be more vunerable too.</STRONG>

not really, the same risks apply.

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if you found out that your girl/boyfriend was havin cyber sex would you be upset??its kinda like phone sex, is that, in a way, cheating??!</STRONG>

I can't really comment on this, as I don't consider sex and love to be connected. Nice in a new way when you combine the two, but both nice anyway. I also think it is possible to love more than one person at once, although I have never been (nor wanted to be) in that position.

Former Member

Originally posted by Carriage Return:
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I can't really comment on this, as I don't consider sex and love to be connected. Nice in a new way when you combine the two, but both nice anyway. I also think it is possible to love more than one person at once, although I have never been (nor wanted to be) in that position.</STRONG>

totally disagree with you when you say love and sex arent connected. fair enouigh in some cases its not but in alot of cases they are. we all have our opinions, but hey, that a whole other days work!

Former Member

I'm constantly offered cyber sex if I use my name (Selina) in a chat room because they asume that because I have a name like that then I must be easy.

Personally, I would rather have real sex rather than doing it online with someone I don't know. I've met a lot of sick people online, include a man who tried to send me child pornography files.

I don't know why people bother with cyber, it doesn't turn me on at all and I don't know why it would turn nyone else on either. But then I enjoy Japnese Hentai...so I can't really complain :P.

Former Member

Originally posted by asho:
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totally disagree with you when you say love and sex arent connected. fair enouigh in some cases its not but in alot of cases they are.</STRONG>

I think thats what I meant when I said
"Nice in a new way when you combine the two"

Former Member

i've never done cyber sex but i dont really have a problem with it i've been offered but always decline the offer <IMG alt="image" SRC="tongue.gif" border="0">

Former Member

i reckon cyber can be good for a laugh now & then. Like kermit said its like reading a sex story only you decide where it goes.

i really don't get people who pretend to be the other sex. If thats what you want, make a point of it (tv/ts/etc) theres plenty of people who'll take you up on it.

The other thing is you don't really know what the other person is up to till they vanish, leaving you... unfulfilled...