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My mum is a funny person. She'll say "I'll do it, its ok." and then completely fuck it up. She sid to me a few weeks ago that she was going to put all my bike documentation - the V5, the insurance, etc. etc. away for me so its all together (rather than being on top of the desk). I say thanks. Today, when I need to retax (well, it runs out on the 31st) I ask her whereabouts she put it all. Then she has a go at me for not being organised. She said she put all my stuff in a drawer, so I go through the drawer, and its just my school stuff out of my bag.
Thing what annoys me is SHE used her initiative to put all my stuff away and has promptly lost it, and is annoyed at me! She could have told me "put all of this away in a safe place rather than leaving it on the desk" which I would have done anyway, but you know how mums are compulsive tidyers and organisers.
Now Im incredibly pissed off. Because it wasnt just one, it was everything. And she thinks its my fault. She had a go at me for not doing anything but lpaying on games! I got back last night from staying with family, and went to work even though I was shattered, then went shop for her because she doesnt really go shopping very often anymore (and there was no food in the cupboards), then went bed. In the morning I got up and played on the computer for a bit, brought her a cup of tea in at 12.30pm, she got up at 1.30, and then she watched tv and went to the shop and now she gets back and is accusing me of not doing anything.
I remember a while back when I would ask my mum for a lift anywhere, she would say 'yea, thats fine' and then would be 1/2 hour late leaving because she was having a coffee, would have a go at me for 'making' her give me a lift (even though if she had declined in the first place, I could have made other arrangements) and then often had the cheek to go to the shop for fags which is in the opposite direction, with complete disregard for me. So I started cycling everywhere! And it was a lot better.
Maybe I should do absolutely everything for myself, refuse to eat the food she cooks because she'll just ahve a go at me for her having to cook for me (not that she really does cook a lot anyway, I make about half my own meals as it is, and I eat another quarter or so at the girlfriends house. Most of the meals we have together are takeaways. In fact, I think sunday dinner is the only one she regularly cooks.
I love my family, tonnes in fact, but its driving me up the wall how 'multiple personality' my mum can be. I have no idea how to describe it. Now Im late for going out, and I still havent done my tax which I was going to do, mums moaning at me to do loads of chores because apparently I dont do anything!
Thing what annoys me is SHE used her initiative to put all my stuff away and has promptly lost it, and is annoyed at me! She could have told me "put all of this away in a safe place rather than leaving it on the desk" which I would have done anyway, but you know how mums are compulsive tidyers and organisers.
Now Im incredibly pissed off. Because it wasnt just one, it was everything. And she thinks its my fault. She had a go at me for not doing anything but lpaying on games! I got back last night from staying with family, and went to work even though I was shattered, then went shop for her because she doesnt really go shopping very often anymore (and there was no food in the cupboards), then went bed. In the morning I got up and played on the computer for a bit, brought her a cup of tea in at 12.30pm, she got up at 1.30, and then she watched tv and went to the shop and now she gets back and is accusing me of not doing anything.
I remember a while back when I would ask my mum for a lift anywhere, she would say 'yea, thats fine' and then would be 1/2 hour late leaving because she was having a coffee, would have a go at me for 'making' her give me a lift (even though if she had declined in the first place, I could have made other arrangements) and then often had the cheek to go to the shop for fags which is in the opposite direction, with complete disregard for me. So I started cycling everywhere! And it was a lot better.
Maybe I should do absolutely everything for myself, refuse to eat the food she cooks because she'll just ahve a go at me for her having to cook for me (not that she really does cook a lot anyway, I make about half my own meals as it is, and I eat another quarter or so at the girlfriends house. Most of the meals we have together are takeaways. In fact, I think sunday dinner is the only one she regularly cooks.
I love my family, tonnes in fact, but its driving me up the wall how 'multiple personality' my mum can be. I have no idea how to describe it. Now Im late for going out, and I still havent done my tax which I was going to do, mums moaning at me to do loads of chores because apparently I dont do anything!
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No matter what you try to do to help, you always get moaned at anyway. Story of my life!
How rather true.
Perhaps all Mums do it? And then... say they'll do something, meaning "no, thats never happening."
never underestimate the power of female hormones. and then possibly coupled with things like depression, and grief? it's no wonder she's a bit all over the place.
if none of this applies, it's possible your mum could just be annoying. my dad is incredibly annoying, and he can really drive me up the wall for no good reason. no one's perfect though, and i suppose you just have to deal.