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But that isn't the point...
The point is if me & you were having a normal conversation, and I sparked a joint, you'd run away. That shows unfounded fear and hyper-sensitivity which also manifest's itself in your attitude towards sex. This can only be a bad thing. The good news is, you're young and will probably change.
and i don't see whats wrong with my attitude towards sex, it's alot better than some people my age
Wasn't really meaning by taking drugs or having sex just you never seem to do anything teenagers do?
and to be honest, where i live there isn't much for teenagers
No fair enough, was just curious really
Never even implied you should do otherwise.
See that's fair enough.
But when people that choose not to do these things then try to gain some moral superiority of us that do, it pisses me off.
I'm not prejudiced to your religion, just every religion. I proud that I don't need to live my life to the words of some old book. My 'inner strength' or whatever has obviously helped.
It's probably worth mentioning that this works both ways. Take Spliffie for example, who appears to be taking some kind of bizarre, reverse moral high-ground. If someone doesn't like drugs or alcohol and "runs away" from them, it doesn't mean they have social problems.
And just to disprove Spliffie:
I'm 21, I can't stand drugs, I don't drink very often at all and I'm a virgin, yet I can socialise perfectly fine and I'm probably the happiest person I know, and with the least personal problems. I can't remember the last time I was feeling unhappy (besides when my Nan died a few weeks ago, and a brief lapse last night when it dawned on me that I hadn't met a single girl I liked for years).
I haven't taken any reverse moral ground. I was pointing out the absurd, fearful and moralistic attitudes a lot of 'older virgins' are characterised by. Literally running off when someone lights a joint is symptomatic of someone with problems imo.
I didn't say it was the case with everyone, so you've disproved nothing.
And you did take a moral high ground. Your morals.
Yeah, and I suggest you're talking out of your arse.
I know loads of people with problems, some minor, some serious to the point of attempted suicide.
Worst thing i've experienced? What the fuck are you talking about?
And show me where i've moralised?
So, from those two examples, what morals have I shown myself to uphold?
I don't know what you're like in person, Spliffie, but you come across as an arrogant little shit in this thread.
Those are assertions - not morals. Anyway...
People who often abstain from sex tend to also abstain from drugs. I believe the reasons for their abstinence from both are linked, and those reasons are often linked to aspects of their personality which may hold them back in life. Maybe that's absurd to you, but it's evident to me in my analysis of other people.
I also haven't said that keeping your virginity beyond teenage years will, by default, make you unhappy. Drawing from personal experience of people, and analysis of them, it's patently obvious to me that a disproportionate number of post-teenage virgins are unhappy, lonely and generally fearful people who follow a very unrewarding path (whatever the reason for following that path may be).
Are the majority of religious beliefs not opposed to pre-marital sex?
I think this is a fair enough point. Sex is an important part of any adult realtionship. If by the age of twenty you havn't lost your virgintiy it is quite likely you havn't been in a serious relationship - something I think is relatively important and rewarding whilst growing up.
And your opinions on sex & drugs are part of your moral framework.
I don't see how choosing to have sex (whether in a relationship or not) or to do drugs makes you a more or less moral person.
Similarly I don't see how choosing to abstain from the them makes you a more moral person. Its down to personal choice ... you're ready when your ready and shouldn't be looked down on or judged for the decisions you make on these issues.
A girl told me the other night that I was a bad person because i smoke, have had one night stands and sometimes do drugs (although I'm sure anyone of these on their own would have been enough for her). I find it strange that she judges me from a moral stand point derived from a book that has inspired people at times to commit some of the greatest atrocities in human history.
I'd like to think I'm a moral person ... I don't cheat or steal, i help out people when i can, i'm not racist and don't judge people by their beliefs, i'd never intentionally hurt someone without exceptional reason and yet because i like sex or smoking or drugs she's a better person than me??? How does that work?
For example, one person may view sex to be best within marriage, others may not; some may like one night stands, others will not; some will try any or all drugs, others will stop at cannabis. Et cetera. Your morals are the justification for your decision.
Maybe some people do freak at the thought of having sex but it really doesn't bother me... It's not that I don't get turned on or fancy people, it's just that I haven't found anybody interesting and attractive yet.
So you know a lot of post teenage virgins then? To be honest a lot of post teenage virgins wouldn't admit to wearing their V plates anyway, or wouldn't be open about it... So really, you could have met more happy virgins than sad ones.