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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    betsy wrote:
    Yes I agree that worrying can be positive... it helps makes sense of things in your head and at least if you know/can predict what's going to happen you're more prepared for it. Unfortunately, I'm still at the worrying/unsure stage of whether I should actually do anything and how etc.
    worrying is actualy a form of meditating ...or dwelling upon a matter.
    i wish i could be of help in your decision making but alas i have no answers.
    i thinlk you know in your heart that you have to stop this happening ...the sooner the better.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Caution brings on fear, which denies the scope of evolution and defers community relation.
    fear also can be a very positive thing ...life saving in fact.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    betsy wrote:
    I didn't feel disadvantaged, that's too strong a word but I have to admit some of your comments left me a bit bewildered.
    Bewildered, good! I like it.

    Educate your intelligence with the value of your desire. Initiate a paradigm only you can inspire!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Bewildered, good! I like it.
    so we have a poor confused girl here ...and your delighted that you are confusing her even more?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the more tools you have in your toolbox ...the more tools you are able to use ...the better the job done.
    you tyler ...seem to have a half empty toolbox if you only see worry and fear as useless things.

    smiling and laughing aren't particularly good tools ...they are a bonus when a jobs well done or as a temporary relief from the struggles and trials of life.

    get yourself a full toolbox.
    learn how to use all the tools available to you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    worrying can be one of the most powerful and positive mechanisms you have.

    Bullshit worrying is about biting your nails and self harm.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the more tools you have in your toolbox ...the more tools you are able to use ...the better the job done.
    you tyler ...seem to have a half empty toolbox if you only see worry and fear as useless things.
    Total crap! Where have I said worry and fear are ‘useless’?
    smiling and laughing aren't particularly good tools ...they are a bonus when a jobs well done or as a temporary relief from the struggles and trials of life.

    More useless crap, smiling and laughing are considered most important when trying to heal.
    get yourself a full toolbox.
    learn how to use all the tools available to you.

    Perhaps you need to sharpen a few of yours.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    the more tools you have in your toolbox ...the more tools you are able to use ...the better the job done.
    you tyler ...seem to have a half empty toolbox if you only see worry and fear as useless things.
    Total crap! Where have I said worry and fear are ‘useless’?
    smiling and laughing aren't particularly good tools ...they are a bonus when a jobs well done or as a temporary relief from the struggles and trials of life.

    More useless crap, smiling and laughing are considered most important when trying to heal.
    get yourself a full toolbox.
    learn how to use all the tools available to you.

    Perhaps you need to sharpen a few of yours. :lol:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Bullshit worrying is about biting your nails and self harm.

    that's the biggest load of crap I've heard this year.

    the exit is that way...use it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    that's the biggest load of crap I've heard this year.

    the exit is that way...use it.

    If all you can offer to the dialogue is insulting rhetoric then it is no surprise you have knowledge of the exit.

    However, before you go, you need to illustrate how you perceive worry.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't understand, Tyler were you saying that self harm is a way of expressing worry?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    betsy wrote:
    I don't understand, Tyler were you saying that self harm is a way of expressing worry?

    Personally, I don't think it is.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think it is either I was just wondering what point Tyler was trying to make.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    betsy wrote:
    I don't think it is either I was just wondering what point Tyler was trying to make.
    the point tyler is trying to make is that he's very loud.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The point Tyler is actually trying to make is that Britain is a place full of idiots.

    There, thats what he wanted to hear, so hopefully he can leave now.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Doofay wrote:
    The point Tyler is actually trying to make is that Britain is a place full of idiots.

    There, thats what he wanted to hear, so hopefully he can leave now.

    No, there is often a multiplicity of rationale that relates to why humans do what they do. Worrying will only distract from the necessity to consider the desire, distort the truth behind the behaviour and can become an obsession, (ask a Virgo).

    Worrying is like hesitating, if it continues, the individual often misses the window of discovery.

    And I will believe Britain has an intelligent and considerate populace, if/when the people do something to halt a government that supports an illegal war/occupation, and the torture of man, woman and child!

    Or perhaps you should all protest for a vote in the American elections, considering it is Dubya pulling your strings! :rolleyes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No, there is often a multiplicity of rationale that relates to why humans do what they do. Worrying will only distract from the necessity to consider the desire, distort the truth behind the behaviour and can become an obsession, (ask a Virgo).

    I am a Virgo.
    Worrying is like hesitating, if it continues, the individual often misses the window of discovery.

    Yet how chaotic would you consider a world without worry?
    And I will believe Britain has an intelligent and considerate populace, if/when the people do something to halt a government that supports an illegal war/occupation, and the torture of man, woman and child!

    Unless you want a repetition of the poll tax riots, there is very little we can do. There are anti war groups, entire societies of people oppose the occupation etc. But the fact remains, keeping our occupation in Iraq is all a matter of opinion.
    Or perhaps you should all protest for a vote in the American elections, considering it is Dubya pulling your strings! :rolleyes:

    Why would we, as Britains, need/want a vote in the American elections? That makes about as much sense as the Americans having a vote in our elections.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Virgo...Born critics!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Virgo...Born critics!
    A witty comeback... :rolleyes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Simply put, I am not wasting time replying to worthless comment.
    E.G
    Doofay wrote:
    “Yet how chaotic would you consider a world without worry?”
    errr, this is crap English and deserves to be ignored!
    Doofay wrote:
    “Unless you want a repetition of the poll tax riots, there is very little we can do. There are anti war groups, entire societies of people oppose the occupation etc.”
    Oh yes, the poll tax riots... Give away the lives of humans for an ILLEGAL war then sit down to watch Eastenders, but take our money and we’ll bomb the bastards with Molotov cocktails!
    Wanker!

    Doofay wrote:
    "But the fact remains, keeping our occupation in Iraq is all a matter of opinion."
    Anyone who supports war is part of the problem, and simply does not understand the value of humanity.

    The final quote simply illustrates imaturity.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Please save your politics for the politics and debate forum. This thread is hardly the appropriate place to discuss your feelings on the war in Iraq and if I were the original poster I wouldn't be happy that a thread I started to try and get some opinions or help on what I perceive to be a serious problem has ended in an off topic discussion about politics. If you want to debate matters like this there is a forum specifically for it. Not to mention you keep dragging it up.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The final quote simply illustrates imaturity.

    Poor girl gets up the courage to post about her problems and you take the opportunity to stress how 'intelligent' you are and slag off the British.

    Whatever you may have thought of other's advice at least it was practical instead of the bollocks you cut and pasted from your first year psychology lecture notes.

    You were well aware that what you were writing was not easy to understand! You had no intention of helping ... you saw an opportunity to show other up as less intelligent as yourself and you took it.

    That 'illustrated immaturity.'

    And then you dare to take the moral high ground? Honest to god ... I read Betsy's post amazed at how she had the courage to seek advice on something like this from total strangers and then get to your self-righteous-quasi-intelectual-bullshit ... you make me sick!


    Betsy, sorry I have nothing particularly constructive by way of advice. My thoughts would be this needs to be reported but I've never been in a similar situation and couldn't possibly imagine dealing with it. Best of luck whatever you decide to do.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh yes, the poll tax riots... Give away the lives of humans for an ILLEGAL war then sit down to watch Eastenders, but take our money and we’ll bomb the bastards with Molotov cocktails!
    WankerAnyone who supports war is part of the problem, and simply does not understand the value of humanity

    WTF has this to do with Betsy being abused? :confused:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    As others have said, please use this thread to discuss the issues involved in what Betsy was asking. Either do it or I'll clean the thread myself.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey everyone, thanks for all your replies, I really appreciate them. I've made a decision to actively do something to stop the abuse now. I think I might go back to the teacher I talked to before and tell him. Deep down I really want to go to the police myself and report it but I wouldn't know what to say and it'd still feel like betrayal. So I thought a couple more chats with my teacher and take it from there. Thanks again for your help. Just thought I'd let you know.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    betsy wrote:
    Hey everyone, thanks for all your replies, I really appreciate them. I've made a decision to actively do something to stop the abuse now. I think I might go back to the teacher I talked to before and tell him. Deep down I really want to go to the police myself and report it but I wouldn't know what to say and it'd still feel like betrayal. So I thought a couple more chats with my teacher and take it from there. Thanks again for your help. Just thought I'd let you know.

    When wounds are sustained they often need to scab so the damage can heal, try to consider the future beyond these difficult times. If you do involve the police seek legal advice first.

    Fond wishes for your continuity and strong ethics inside your principles.
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