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Recently, when I start new relationships, I panic, and become suddenly over critical and quite unpredictable with the person I'm seeing. When most people are excited about the growing future possibilities and the new sex, I'm convincing myself that I'm being used/the person isn't right for me.
Am I a psycho? A paranoid mess? Or do I just need to get through the early days until I'm fully comfortable with the new person in my life?
Am I a psycho? A paranoid mess? Or do I just need to get through the early days until I'm fully comfortable with the new person in my life?
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sounds like your paranoid, not all partners are out to use and abuse.
just try to relax and enjoy the start of a new relationship!
Perhaps if I ignore all pessimistic thoughts I can get beyond it. I just find people can't live up to the only man I've ever truly loved! God that sounds so soppy, haha.
listen, i used to think that no1 could live upto my ex, but ive found there's better people out there, even though i didnt think it was possible!
Remember; everyones special in their own way, and every one is different! it isnt fair on that person not to give them a chance, based on your past relationships!
I tend to prefer my relationships to start slowly and I often feel a little bit rushed. Well that's the excuse I manifested in my mind to break up with the last one. :rolleyes:
I feel I'm at the point that all these people can't be that flawed and maybe the problem lies in me. I should get a therapist or a lifestyle guru maybe!
Its a bit of a problem in my current relationship.Which is totally crazy because i basically have the perfect guy but i still manage to pick faults with him or the relationship.
Personally i think its to do with the fact so many people have hurt me and im so used to that hurt that i cant except that anything might be fine or have no faults so i create them myself.Its so self destructive.
I guess i dont want to accept something might ever be perfect because what if i do and then somewhere down the line it turns sour.I couldnt begin to deal with that.
However what is life without risks?