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help with fear of first time ???

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey, im nearly 17 and im a virgin. Me and my g/f, who ive been with for 11 months have decided to have sex for the first time on Sunday (were both virgins). Im really worried about it. Can any one offer advice on helping the situation go as smoothly as possible???

thanx all, Me <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mate take things slowly, and relax.....its a big step but you seem ready for it. as most will say do lots of kissing and touching before you do the "deed" but if she not ready for it don't push her, but if you sure you both are just take you time

    make sure its nice place where you do it, and no one will be about, its the worse thing when your trying to "do it" and people are about.

    hope all works out for you mate,if its it a flop don't worry it can happen to the best of us, if you build it up to be this big thing that going to be great, it most likely will not

    so relax mate and tell me how it go's

    [ 18-04-2002: Message edited by: Harmless ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Aw good luck man. I'm still a virgin at 18 and I hope that when I lose it, it's in a similar situation, although I wouldn't want to wait quite that long I don't think. I'm sure it'll be great for you <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sex is easy, dont be scared!!!! Be cool and you will do ok <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    BUT.............

    Watch out for the fanny monster!!! This monster only comes out when annoyed(usually when its prodded at)and will give a nasty bite if prodded at too much!!!! Especially watch out if you think about using your tongue!!!!

    Its also known to fart on the odd occasion of sex, which is usually known as a fanny fart. They dont smell but the noise is quite unusual!!!

    Man I talk pish when I am bored!!!!*

    <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    haha your scare the life out of the poor boy, another "tip of the day" drink lots of water on the big day, trust me it make everything work better!!

    good luck

    [ 18-04-2002: Message edited by: Harmless ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    have you dicussed contraception? make sure you do first. the worst thing that could happen on your first time is to get her pregnant.
    and don't worry about it,just go with the flow and you'll be fine. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Take it slow, be gentle, show her how much you care abut her etc. Dont rush it to make it as painless as possible make sure she is fully turned on.
    Candles would be a nice mood setter

    oh and dont forget tha all important condom <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nice relaxing music, contraception already sorted, house/location to yourself is a good start.

    Don't take it too seriously, focus on having fun and the two of you enjoying yourselves <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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    Good luck,

    my first time woz hard i was scared too but its not all that bad. Be relaxed and cool and everyfing will be ok.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    make sure that she is relaxed and let her know that it doesnt have to happen on that night if she doesnt want it too. take things really slow is the best thing i can advise
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    take your time and just relax spend some time just kissing and then slowly but surely move on and on and you will feel fine.

    good luck!!!! <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Goodluck!! Hope it turns out ok for u both <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey there,
    I don't know if this post will reach you in time but we can only hope =)
    The one big thing in my mind about loosing your virginity is a) that you are both ready and b) that it is with the right person, and to be 100% honest it sounds like you have cleared both of these categories with flying colors. Just be smart about it and take all the right measures and remember she is probably a lot more scared than you are so when/if it happens, be sure to talk to her and make sure she is not too uncomfortabel herself. Also another thing is dont just do it and leave, i mean, make a day out of it. Go out together for that whole day and just enjoy each others company, it will make that night a lot more special.
    Good Luck.

    Jackson
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