I dont understand???

Former Member

This will prob sound so so stupid but I need a bit of advice/help....

The thing is Iam 24 and getting into a serious relationship, and my bf is so good and kind. He really wants to make me happy and bring me to orgasm.

But my prob is I can even make myself feel turned on. I have lived a sheltered life and only recently began experimenting with my body. I took a mirror and was examining myself.

Everyone keeps saying to rub / stroke the clit but I cant find my clit. Maybe Iam not normal! I have like looked at the lips and vagina etc. When I look at the vagina there looks to be like a bit in the middle (in the actual vagina)...whats going on....?

Can someone help...Please?

Former Member

Not everyone can bring themselves to orgasm.

The clit will be covered most of the time.

This site has pictures (not porn)

http://www.luckymojo.com/faqs/altsex/vulva.html

Former Member

Try looking at www.clitical.com :yes:

Former Member

Screw looking at sites just keep experimenting with your body and your partner more fun that way :yes:

Former Member

Exactly Dr Lurve.

Let your fingers do the walking and you will find what you seek.

Former Member

the little bit that looks like its inside your vagina is probably your urethra (where the wee comes out)
If you dont feel turned on ever, maybe you just dont fancy your partner. Have you ever felt turned on by anyone?
Are you on contraception?

Former Member

Hmm... I believe that some womens clits aren't quite as sensitive as most... erm... I actually find stroking the G spot is much more effective, everyone's diffrent.

Also some people just don't have as much of a sex drive as others, maybe that has something to do with it not being easy to get turned on. :chin:

Former Member

you might not get turned on because you have never had an orgasm. once you know what it feels like and the pleasure that your partner can give you i'm sure your sex drive will increase and you will get turned on just by thinking about him.

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Ah but hang on... I don't see how what you said lipsy can be right! You said that she might not get turned on because she's never had an orgasm... well surely you'd need to get turned on to have one, but you're saying cos she's never had one she's not getting turned on! How can she win?!?!

grrrr, it made more sense in my head, I promise you!

Former Member

Try using a vibrator Ann summers Clit kit should help.

Former Member

Lipsy, you're so right. i was with this guy for 10 months and didnt orgasm at all, and not through lack of tryin! I was soooo frustrated and i thought there was something wrong wiv me, and it screwed up our relationship cos he thought it was his fault. But then i had my first with a diff guy and it was like being unlocked. I dunno wat the difference was but, i think the pressure of "I should orgasm!" wasnt as strong and he made sure i was enjoyin wat he was doing and he made me feel completely relaxed and i was completely open to him like mentally and emotionally than i'd ever been with the other, and i think it was in being vulnerable and losing inhibitions i was able to get there. it took like 1 1/2 hours but it was amazing.... and since then i kno exactly the right buttons and its all good! lol.
i think the main thing is that u have to relax and if u worry too much about it then u wont be able too get there... oh yer and continue to explore! lol