Whats Going Wrong?

Former Member

hey guys, thanks in advance for reading this message. And i look forward to all your replies. I feel kinda embarrassed bout this but....

here goes:

im currently 17, been with my girlfriend for a month and a week although we were going out for 2 months before and been kinda seeing each other for 3 months after that. I am a virgin whilst she has had 2 sexual partners and is quite experienced.

We have both agreed that we want to have sex, and twice we should have done it but didn't. Both these occasions we have been outside in woods (i know bad location, but we keep gettin carried away lol). Well I start with an erection at first with all the foreplay, then when I start to finger her my erection goes. Then sometimes if I get an erection again I suggest we have sex and she agrees but when I take my trousers off, it goes again :banghead: . I really don't know why because I'm quite alright with the size of my manhood and I find her so beautiful and love everything about her and she has masses of sexual presence but twice we have gone to do it, I've literally been a flop.

Is there anyone out there who could offer me advice as to why this occurs please?

All advice will be greatly received

Thanks

Former Member

i think your nervous cause she's experienced and you're not - she's your gf so she wont compare you, it's you she's with now.

Former Member

Start with your trousers down! n go straight for it! lol

Former Member

http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/havingsex/performanceproblems/impotence

Good Luck :yes:

Former Member

You're in a wood, with a lovely woman, you're getting it on, but in the back of your mind you're thinking:

'I could get caught at any minute' + 'what if I don't do it right?' = Disaster

Find a bed and take things slowly.

Former Member

BumbleBee wrote:

Find a bed and take things slowly.

Exactly if you'er alone together and have time to relax and just be with each other it'll probably solve your problem.

Former Member

Or a bath, baths are good

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TheShyBoyInTheCorner wrote:

Or a bath, baths are good

or shower.....

Former Member

My boyfriend had the exact same problem when we first tried to have sex. He didnt know what it was; he said he found me attractive, he wasn't nervous, and he wanted to have sex.
We just kept trying & now he's fine! Just tell your girlfriend how you feel because that's the mistake my boyfriend made. I thought it was something to do with me so i nearly lost him early on into our relationship.

Former Member

its all about nerve, back one time when i was about to sleep with a girl i really liked i had this problem, it wasnt my first time tho strangely. its never happened since. but it was deffo nerves.

Former Member

One word... Viagra!!!

(I am kidding by all means. Using medication is the worst idea possible. Don't worry, you're normal.)

Former Member

BumbleBee wrote:

You're in a wood, with a lovely woman, you're getting it on, but in the back of your mind you're thinking:

'I could get caught at any minute' + 'what if I don't do it right?' = Disaster

Find a bed and take things slowly.

I think you hit it on the head. I was thinking that but I was so confused as to why it was happening and kinda needed reassuring.

Thanks alot everyone for your advice. It was greatly appreciated.

Cheerz :thumb: