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Being bullied :(
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Hi
I'm in a really stressful situation and its really getting me down.
Over the last few weeks my manager has been really having a go at me, she brings the same old stuff up again and again and is calling me into her office at least once at a day. It all started when I tried to stand up to her (I'm not a very assertive person).
Every day I get home from work and I'm exhaused, my head is killing me and I'm usually in tears or feeling like self harm a lot.
I cant leave because I have bills and stuff to pay for and my other half isn't working.
I can't cope though, any ideas on coping stratagies
Phoenix
I'm in a really stressful situation and its really getting me down.
Over the last few weeks my manager has been really having a go at me, she brings the same old stuff up again and again and is calling me into her office at least once at a day. It all started when I tried to stand up to her (I'm not a very assertive person).
Every day I get home from work and I'm exhaused, my head is killing me and I'm usually in tears or feeling like self harm a lot.
I cant leave because I have bills and stuff to pay for and my other half isn't working.
I can't cope though, any ideas on coping stratagies
Phoenix
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What kind of stuff is she pulling you up for?
Its trivial stuff. she had a go at me for me for getting behind with some paperwork however my team mate was absent and she'd introduced some new rules which made it longer to do do the paperwork. Others were behind too.
Then today it was cos my desk wasnt tidy yet other staffs desks werent tidy too and she can talk!!!
Phoenix
have some respect for yourself.
If not, then find out if you are part of a union (not totaly sure how they work)
speak to the citizens advice bureau as well.
It might seem like the hardest option, but tell your manager that what they are doing is wrong. You should not be made to suffer because of them.
And if you end up leaving, then the same could happen to some one else.
Im sorry this is happening to you and hope that everything gets sorted out as quickly as possible.
Where do you work? If your company has a trade union representative then have a quiet word with them, most shop stewards will be more than willing to give some advice even if you're not a member.
If you complain higher up the company and get nowhere, then contact ACAS and discuss your rights with them. ACAS are an impartial work advice, rights and mediation service, and can be contacted on 08457 47 47 47 between 8am and 6pm Monday to Friday.
Bullying boss
the person who is treating me like this is the manager of the office I work in. The problem is she is busom buddies with the head of personnel. The head of personnel then soaks up all the bad stuff she does before it gets through to the main manager, who is based in another office anyway so doesnt get to see whats going on. The last time anyone went directly to the main manager my boss made his life a misery.
Theres no protocol (sp) or organisation. Apparently when you are given an official warning you have to have someone there as a witness. I never knew that as its never been done in that place.
Phoenix