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Are my wild child days over for good?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've always loved alchohol, rec drugs and partying. Now I'm 5 months pregnant and obviously not touching anything like that. My question is though, is that side of my life over for good?

I'm not an irresponsible person in general, I just like having fun. Even though I'm bit of a party girl, I still go to uni, have a good job and am reliable to friends and family.

So wot's the deal? Can I still enjoy myself at the weekend, when I know the baby will be well looked after? Or is that incredibly selfish of me? I don't want to just be a mum and a wifely figure. I want me and el boyf to still be able to have fun together, not just be mum and dad.

Answers on a postcard please. Honesty really appreciated....

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, I'll give you my experience. I have a few mates who have been doin the drink & pills thing for years. They are now in their 30's and have kids. They do still have the odd weekend where the kids go to grandma's and a major "chemically-fueled" party is had by all at their houses!

    Those parties are the best I've ever been to, and its funny seeing them all loved-up and getting all sentimental about their kids. <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> awww, sweet!

    They do it once in a while and everything is cleaned up and come-downs over by the time the kids return. I don't see anything wrong with that at all, they never have drugs in the house... they get someone to bring them on the night n stuff.

    Even parents should get to let their hair down and party, you need your own life outside being a mum, if only for a night! It'll keep you sane and happy and then you'll be a better mum to be around! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Well, I know my mates manage it sensibly, and are great parents. I guess you'll just have to play it by ear and see...?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well, i've always maintained that if i haven't stopped using drugs by my stag night then i shall do so on that night. I've always felt when you only have yourself to look after, your actions are your own choice, as are the consequences <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> But i feel when i have a wife then my wild days shall cease to be and my priorities will have to be placed elsewhere <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> it all depends on yourself really and where you draw the line ? i know i wouldn't want the mother of my kids using drugs and generally been young and wild, but then you do always have the sensible use option <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> would you be able to apply yourself to it though ? In my opinon now would be a good time to put it all behind you, but then i'm not in your boots and its oh so very easy for me to say that <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Just always remember what ever becomes of your actions will have a knock on effect, what if you get caught ? you have a child without a mum whilst your sent down for 6 months, what if you end up a mess in hospital ? how will social services view this ? its a tricky one <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> but then pills are so good <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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